tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post239972215415221117..comments2024-03-28T22:51:32.258+00:00Comments on Shadows & Light: The Wedding that Wasn'tSteve Reedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-89554663528044012432015-06-17T10:25:53.685+01:002015-06-17T10:25:53.685+01:00That sucks. I wish governments were a little more ...That sucks. I wish governments were a little more cooperative with people. I do also love the idea of rings at a garden party. Just tell the powers that be where to go.Mwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954216492730746581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-54871019228060745212015-06-14T02:54:31.558+01:002015-06-14T02:54:31.558+01:00Oh I love the idea of you exchanging rings at a gr...Oh I love the idea of you exchanging rings at a grand garden party. A garden party! So English! It's almost better than getting the government involved. 37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-63334031066704524982015-06-13T06:36:35.860+01:002015-06-13T06:36:35.860+01:00Sarah: Ha! Right?!
E: In some ways, but they'...Sarah: Ha! Right?!<br /><br />E: In some ways, but they're not infallible here either!<br /><br />Ellen: To be honest, I'm not sure. I think they're essentially the same, except perhaps for some federal tax stuff. I wasn't aware that you could file a joint return with someone you're not married to! One of the reasons we haven't pursued this more ardently is that practically speaking it seems to make very little difference.<br /><br />Ms Moon: We've talked about that. A ceremony is actually what we LEAST want. (I am not a ceremony person.) We were thinking just an informal marriage and then the party would be the focus. So in lieu of a government marriage we've talked about giving each other rings at the party, or something like that. So who knows!<br /><br />Sharon: Yeah, the visa is definitely a factor!<br /><br />Helene: That's a good question! I guess they'll honor it but they won't change it. (Welcome back!!)<br /><br />Elizabeth: It really is, isn't it? Makes you want to become a wild Libertarian like Rand Paul. (Well, no, not like Rand Paul...)<br />Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-4136943524146749172015-06-13T05:59:17.917+01:002015-06-13T05:59:17.917+01:00Oh, dear Lord -- the bureaucracy of the world is o...Oh, dear Lord -- the bureaucracy of the world is overwhelming. I like the idea of a big celebration.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-3000926209584693492015-06-12T19:10:56.789+01:002015-06-12T19:10:56.789+01:00Huh...since Britain does not have jurisdiction ove...Huh...since Britain does not have jurisdiction over NJ, then why are they even recognizing the civil union as a 'marriage' that must be dissolved in order to get married. My boss married her partner in Connecticut (or one of those New England states)...it was all good. Oh why are things so difficult! But please have that party...you deserve it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-71050470575124550452015-06-12T16:59:18.213+01:002015-06-12T16:59:18.213+01:00That whole visa thing seems to have doubly complic...That whole visa thing seems to have doubly complicated matters. I agree with Ms. Moon. Have the party and a ceremony anyway! Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07645915869786296771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-86433812295379647682015-06-12T14:35:15.035+01:002015-06-12T14:35:15.035+01:00Just have a ceremony anyway! I mean, why not? Make...Just have a ceremony anyway! I mean, why not? Make it your own and then the party. <br />It's all weird and complicated and governments are still figuring it out. <br />I suppose you could both come to Florida and get married in a courthouse. I doubt you'd have to dissolve the civil union. <br />"Civil union" sounds so...civil. Doesn't it? <br />Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-16541665475702454752015-06-12T13:11:59.983+01:002015-06-12T13:11:59.983+01:00leave it to the various governments to screw up pe...leave it to the various governments to screw up people's private lives. what's the difference between a civil union and a marriage anyway (though there must be since NJ says you can still get married). you get the same benefits with both right? and what about common law marriages? I had a friend who filed a joint tax return with her boyfriend two years in a row and when they broke up she found out she had to get a legal divorce. a party sounds nice though.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-30362589987416389672015-06-12T10:58:06.613+01:002015-06-12T10:58:06.613+01:00Well, that is confusing...I'm glad the English...Well, that is confusing...I'm glad the English government has more sense than ours...ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-74544873572916137392015-06-12T05:56:08.466+01:002015-06-12T05:56:08.466+01:00Oh dear! But congratulations on actually being mar...Oh dear! But congratulations on actually being married without even knowing it anyway!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15941415622199071141noreply@blogger.com