tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post8462049986020086195..comments2024-03-28T13:47:45.633+00:00Comments on Shadows & Light: One WeekSteve Reedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-60986773725183450122012-01-07T07:01:45.115+00:002012-01-07T07:01:45.115+00:00Thanks, Lorianne. Their quality of life was defini...Thanks, Lorianne. Their quality of life was definitely slipping, maybe even plunging, downhill!Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-45139771505167024282012-01-06T22:29:01.614+00:002012-01-06T22:29:01.614+00:00Today's photo is breath-taking.
It sounds li...Today's photo is breath-taking. <br /><br />It sounds like you're going through all the normal stages of grief, with the added emotional complications that euthanasia causes. I have no doubt that you & Dave made the right decision. Even if you had been able to add more <i>time</i> to Ruby & Ernie's lives, I'm not sure time alone is the goal. It's about quality of life, and if you want to preserve that, sometimes you have to make a move before things reach their very worst. <br /><br />Ruby & Ernie had reached a point where things were only going to get worse, not better, so you saved them from the worst of their suffering.Loriannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11610684937868696220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-30990378187870117642012-01-06T16:11:04.538+00:002012-01-06T16:11:04.538+00:00Thanks for the support, Kim and Ms. M. I do apprec...Thanks for the support, Kim and Ms. M. I do appreciate it.<br /><br />Barbara: Dave is much more internal. He's certainly grieving, but not as outwardly. I think he was also more resolved about it being the right time.<br /><br />Reya: Yeah, it's interesting -- the cat experience WAS much different. You're right that being relieved of the decision-making was a crucial part of that difference. I had far less guilt about Armenia, though I worried I'd left her alone too much or hadn't noticed critical signs of illness. I also just didn't feel for Armenia what I felt for Ernie and Ruby, or for my cat Howard, who had died a few years earlier. Armenia and I were always a little bit at odds.Steve Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-86957130982959683462012-01-06T15:42:39.730+00:002012-01-06T15:42:39.730+00:00Oh - the photo is exquisite!Oh - the photo is exquisite!Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-76381208269370372302012-01-06T15:42:29.412+00:002012-01-06T15:42:29.412+00:00Yes, indeed. The storms of emotion that surround t...Yes, indeed. The storms of emotion that surround the death of pets are truly intense, inescapable. You are very healthy-minded to allow them to run their course. There's no way to avoid them.<br /><br />On occasion I still shed a few tears over Jake - with all the same feelings of guilt, anger, and sadness. Bringing these beings into our lives is a real commitment. Holy cow.<br /><br />I remember when your cat died suddenly, the experience was very different for you. She did you a favor by passing away without you having to make the decision about when.<br /><br />Holding you in my heart.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-29804676778695882402012-01-06T15:02:12.840+00:002012-01-06T15:02:12.840+00:00I totally understand this. At some point your goo...I totally understand this. At some point your good memories of Ruby and Ernie will replace your feelings of guilt and grief. Go for a run and think about all the wonderful times you had together.<br /><br />Is Dave processing his grief in the same way or are you taking different paths?Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18356998698106275372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-22993809265395968052012-01-06T14:50:50.993+00:002012-01-06T14:50:50.993+00:00Reading your post, had me in tears. I remembered w...Reading your post, had me in tears. I remembered what it was like when I went through it with my pet. It was so bad, I have not been able to have another pet again. You have my sympathies and support.<br /><br />Ms. M<br /><a href="http://msk1ell.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Ms.M's Blog</a><br /><a href="http://ateachersplan.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">A Teacher's Plan</a>Ms.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03426159534525251722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-62810885738955178532012-01-06T13:34:19.246+00:002012-01-06T13:34:19.246+00:00oh steve, i'm so sad to learn of your and dave...oh steve, i'm so sad to learn of your and dave's loss. somehow i missed this news (i've been very lax with keeping up)<br /><br />the decision to euthanize is agonizing but necessary - our pets can't just wander off when their time comes anymore, but most often depend on us to help them cross the rainbow bridge.<br /><br />hugs to you and dave....mouse (aka kimy)https://www.blogger.com/profile/09385557065971602436noreply@blogger.com