Friday, March 7, 2025

Oh, DEAR


Yesterday was super-busy in the library. It was World Book Day, and we had our annual "Drop Everything and Read" (DEAR) promotion. Students, staff and faculty were encouraged (but not required) to set aside their usual work for an hour in the afternoon and read for pleasure. No screens -- we're talking printed books, newspapers or magazines.

It's a great idea, but of course for me it's never very relaxing, because there are always a hundred kids who don't have anything to read and who wait until the last minute to come to the library and check something out. So the first part of my DEAR hour is consumed by checking out books. Also, we have research classes going on in the library at this time of year, and those teachers almost always opt out of DEAR. So, ironically, the library is about the least peaceful place in the entire building!

I did get some reading done, starting my next book, which is about Q-Anon and its effects on the American family. I bought it several months ago after hearing the author on the Q-Anon Anonymous (or QAA) podcast. She describes the ways in which previously sensible people slip down the Internet rabbit hole of Q-Anon and are pretty soon alienating spouses and children and everyone close to them with their insane beliefs and conspiracies. They're very personal stories and quite compelling.

Many of these people began getting into Q-Anon even before the pandemic, but the isolation of lockdowns and the government's advocacy of vaccines seems to have really poured gasoline on the whole Q-Anon and Internet conspiracy movement. You know, I don't think I fully appreciated at the time how damaging pandemic lockdowns were for people psychologically. I don't recall having a problem at all -- if anything, I appreciated more time in the garden. But I didn't have family nearby that I was unable to visit, and I wasn't trying to keep a business afloat or dealing with depression or grief or many of the other issues that confronted people head-on during that period.

Anyway, it's a very interesting book.


I think I may once again have induced root-rot in one of my Christmas cacti. I have one that looks a little peaked and I think that's what's going on -- which annoys me to no end because I know not to overwater and I've managed to do it twice now. It's the salmon-colored one that is struggling. I'll give it a little more time to sort itself out. Maybe now that spring is arriving and there's more sun it will come around. I only water them weekly but even with good drainage I suppose that might be too much during the winter.


Graffiti seems to be my pictorial theme today, so here's a photo of Olga nosing into the frame while I'm trying to photograph some graffiti on a utility box. Graffiti may be unsightly but I am intrigued by the handstyles of some writers -- it's a bit like admiring someone's penmanship. Olga's expression brings to mind the word "hangdog."

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  1. My partner was quite strongly affected by lockdown. Allowing for his usual theatrical exaggeration as he told people how bad it was, it really did affect him to well after lockdown ended. I quite liked the routine we developed and I didn't really mind it at all.

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    1. It's interesting how different people respond in different ways.

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  2. I bought a small Christmas cactus last year and if I don't keep it watered enough it drops segments of its leaves or whatever the green parts are called. And I don't want to water it too much in case it gets root rot like you mentioned. It's turning out to be a very persnickety plant. (Or maybe it's me not knowing how to take care of it!)

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    1. The pink ones -- which I imagine are closer to the native variety -- give me no trouble at all. But the more hybridized they are to produce different colors of flowers, the more sensitive they seem to be.

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  3. She has got such a guilty look on her furry face...as if she has been caught tagging public property!

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  4. You could try propagating your cactus in case it doesn't rally. I used to break off a section and suspend it in a glass of water, using cling film or cocktail sticks to support it, until roots grew.

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    1. I've done that a couple of times when a cactus has struggled with ill health!

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  5. Opting out of "DEAR"? That should not be a thing - especially in the library. Clearly such teachers need some in-service training about why reading matters and why they should play their part in supporting the laudable "DEAR" initiative. Through their opting out they have conveyed a negative message about reading to the children they teach.

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    1. If it became mandatory it would be hated, I suspect.

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  6. Try taking the pot off your cactus and let the root-soil clump dry out for a few days - provided it stays together, which it should really - and see if that works. It did for me, I left it in a warm sunny spot and completely forgot about for a while it until I noticed that it had started to flower.
    We have a few friends and cousins who went down that conspiracy whole, some have since come back. But others we've lost, into the esoteric no vaccine cloud, the old pharma-industry conspiracy and one cousin is now busy trading healing stones (aka pebbles from her garden path) to insert into the kettle before boiling water.

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    1. It's a clay pot so I think I'll leave the root ball in the breathable pot and let it dry out naturally. I'm afraid it would fall apart if I remove it from the pot.

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  7. Graffiti is actually adored in some street art culture

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  8. I think conspiracy theorists have been around for a long time but like you alluded too, Covid really brought a face to it with Q-Anon. From my perspective I see it happening on both sides of the political spectrum. Earlier this year I saw bloggers complaining about a government conspiracy to convert them when suddenly they were listed as "followers" of several MAGA oriented figures. Later on it came about they had been previously been following several liberal leading figures on accounts that got transferred to the opposing party once they took office and they were switched over without warning. Of course, the right has been all over Q-Anon and many other conspiracies too.

    Conspiracies are a quick and easy way to amp up fear and hysteria which seems to be the default way to combat the opposing viewpoints these days.

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    1. I'm still getting a plethora of conservative websites popping up on my Facebook feed. (not tied to any political office) It is completely new to me and I'm trying to block them but more show up every day.

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    2. Yeah, I've heard various interpretations of that particular "conspiracy." It didn't happen to me, fortunately!

      I'm not very paranoid about the world that I live in, which I suppose is why conspiracy thinking has never made much sense to me. I also think people in general are very poor planners and communicators, and there's no way these vast conspiracies could happen without someone dropping the ball or blowing the whistle (to use two sports-related metaphors).

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  9. When I taught elementary school, we used to have DEAR time. I enjoyed it, but from your perspective in the library, I learned a whole new perspective on it. I have a Christmas cactus that is quirky. I actually bought two little plants a couple of years ago and planted them in a big pot. One side blooms at Thanksgiving, and the other side blooms at Christmas. One side had red blooms, the other pink. The red side is now blooming again! I have no idea why or how it has happened, but I am enjoying the blooms.

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    1. Well, there are Thanksgiving cactuses and Christmas cactuses, apparently, so maybe you have one of each! Mine are technically Thanksgiving cactuses -- they always bloom in November.

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  10. I did well during lockdown because it required no explanation of why I was home knitting and reading! I did have to push myself out once it opened up. However a couple of my friends in similar situations, older women living alone, came close to a mental breakdown from the isolation from all their activities. I had to distance myself from one who wrote lengthy emails daily and demanded detailed responses to all her comments. She became abusive, very unlike herself. Recently she was in touch and sounded much better.

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    1. I guess it comes down to how well you can entertain yourself. I've always had the ability to keep myself busy and that didn't change during lockdown.

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  11. You could add a paintbrush, spray can, or chalk into Olga’s left “hand” and she’d look like she just got caught. I like her work. I coped better during lockdown than I am now. Couldn’t handle a book about Q-Anon.

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  12. I know what you mean about not realizing about effects of the pandemic. While I wasn't fond of the idea of this rampant virus out there, I really loved my pandemic time. I got a lot done, I enjoyed the quiet and the lack of having to go somewhere and do something. I had my bubble and we managed to have distanced fun. That said, I'm privileged in that I had reliable internet, reliable streaming, no little ones to monitor or educate, an income (no layoffs and SS and retirement payments not affected), a big pile of books to read and plenty of art supplies. It's easy to forget that so many didn't have that.

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    1. Yeah, that's exactly it -- having no little kids and a steady income, I didn't experience the lockdown the way a lot of people did.

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  13. I can, and have, very easily slipped down a rabbit hole and while I know this is an extreme example, when I read about Obama eating babies or Hillary running some pedophile ring in a pizza parlor, tI stopped believing a thing that was said.

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    1. That's what I always wonder -- where is that little switch in some people's minds that flips when they read something really crazy, making them say, "Wait a minute. This can't be true." Some people seem to be missing it!

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  14. I've read a couple of articles that talk about the impact of the lock-downs. Like you, I find it interesting since I didn't feel any adverse affects. Maybe because I was still working even if it was from home and my friends always found a way to communicate with each other. And, I didn't lock myself away. I still spent time outdoors.

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    1. I guess those of us who were able to work, or at least get paid, don't understand the pressure on people who didn't have that luxury.

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  15. I felt so guilty about how much I loved lock-down. I really missed being able to hug my grandchildren and my children. That was horrible. But as to the rest- sort of my dream.

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    1. Yeah, I remember you missing the grandkids! And that would have been hard, I see that.

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  16. My husband and I both worked through the pandemic, so things didn't change much, except the commute was much faster. And we're both introverts:)
    You're over watering your christmas cacti. Our humidty is usually in between 20-30% all winter and I only water my cacti maybe every two to three weeks, less if I forget.

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    1. Thanks for the cactus advice! I usually water everything weekly no matter the time of year, and I probably should cut back more on winter watering.

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  17. I like the two 'HOOKS' graffiti, and the graffiti imposed on them.

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    1. They're cool pieces, aren't they? I like how consistent they are with letter shapes and drips.

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  18. We had sustained silent reading (SSS) every morning before classes started. It seemed to work well.

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    1. What a great way to begin the day! I wish we had that!

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  19. Olga Girl , You Are One Sexy Beast - Loved Your Little Photo Bomb There

    Happy Paws ,
    Cheers

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  20. I enjoy being stopped at a train crossing and watching the graffiti zoom by on the freight train cars. Such variety and color and talent!
    I'm doing something wrong with one of my Christmas cacti also. I will try to stop the watering for awhile but I think it is a goner. Maybe I will try JayCee's suggestion...

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    1. I'm glad I'm not the only one having trouble with their cactus!

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  21. Since I had to work as usual during the pandemic I was always so envious & folks who "got" to stay home. I think I would have been fine - home is my favorite place, and not being allowed to leave sounds like a dream (although of course I was VERY WORRIED about the virus & how it was affecting other people). Mike on the other hand still had to care for his father & finding groceries became almost a military action for him. He was very stressed during much of that time.

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    1. Yeah, being responsible for another person -- especially one not within your household -- during that time would have been trying.

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  22. I struggled at times but found long walks and car coffee dates to be mental lifesavers. Reading also! I learned how to enjoy alone time which I'd not experienced much of as a teacher/parent/daughter. I think there is something lacking in people who immerse themselves in conspiracy theories. They need certainty when sometimes there aren't answers.

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    1. They have beliefs and then they develop (or latch onto) theories to back up those beliefs, rather than allowing facts to help form their beliefs. Know what I mean? In other words, the beliefs come first.

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  23. Yes, Olga seems to enjoy graffiti a lot less than you.

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  24. LIfe did not change that much for us, other than having to shop faster than we liked to do. And then there was no toilet paper. But other than that, we had the outdoors, and a rowing machine.

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    1. The whole toilet paper thing bewilders me even now.

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  25. The lockdown didn't affect me at all. We were retired living out here where we really had no social life, though what we did have, a neighbor who had parties for some of us about 3 times a year did stop and never picked back up but I still see and socialize with those people. And that's when I started volunteering at SHARE which I still do. I did allow me to not travel into the city for two funerals I didn't want to go to. I guess if I lived in an apartment in a big city that I couldn't leave and had no access to the outdoors I probably would have gone nuts.

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    1. Yeah, I think the fact that we had outdoor space was also a huge benefit for us. I never felt particularly confined. Our street used to have an annual block party and that never resumed after the pandemic. (We never went anyway!)

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  26. Do you know the meaning behind the "hooks" graffiti? Sweet Olga looks a little awkward there!

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    1. I'm not sure there's a meaning. I think it's just the name that graffiti writer uses.

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  27. Initially, I missed the normal flow of things but overall adjusted to lockdowns. Long walks and my plants and garden were my lifesaver. Every day we drove to the Starbucks drive through for coffee and a pappuccino for Caesar.
    I believe people join cults because something is missing in their lives. They are searching to fill a void. Cult leaders know this and know how to draw people in.

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    1. I think you're right about cults. During lockdown our Starbucks were closed along with everything else!

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  28. I wasn't bothered by lockdown because I prefer to stay at home! Carol was living with me so I had company. But a lot of people seem to have been disturbed, sought fellowship online, and were drawn into cults that were already developing because of the orange buttface. I admit I saw "Poundland" at the top of the page and my mind went somewhere naughty before I realized what it means.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Ha! It does sound like a porn shop or something! LOL

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  29. I have a DEAR session every single day, why wait for the right day to come around?
    Does that cactus have a saucer to drain into? Lift it up a bit so the pot isn't sitting directly in the drained water and water less in winter. Put a few pebbles for the pot to sit on.

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    1. Yes, the pot sits in a saucer, and I never let water stand in the saucer. Maybe I'll try the pebble thing to elevate it. Mostly I think I need to water less in winter, as you suggested -- but that's hard because winter is when it's blooming and I want to support the blossoms!

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  30. P.S. perhaps teachers could remind the students a week or two ahead that DEAR is coming so get your books ready? Put up notices in the library?

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    1. We've tried that. Kids operate on last-minute basis.

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  31. My daughter had covid this week and was alone in her apartment with it because her partner was traveling, and she said she was realizing for the first time how psychologically wearing it was for those who were alone during lockdowns. I agree with you that those of us who were accompanied might have no idea.

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    1. This week?! Wow. I haven't heard of anyone having Covid in a while. Of course, most people no longer test, so they'd never know. Hope she's doing better!

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