Monday, August 24, 2026

Pruning the Dude


It's funny that the very tropical Brugmansias have chosen now to bloom, because it's starting to feel downright autumnal out there. Something about the low humidity and lower temperatures, a subtle shift of the sun, is telling me that it's almost fall. It's 55º F this morning (about 13º C).

I just gave Bailey a Dentastix, which you will remember was one of Olga's favorite treats. Olga would eagerly snatch them from us and gnaw them apart immediately. Bailey, though, takes them uncertainly, and then carries them out into the garden or to a remote corner of the house and "buries" them. (Indoors this means shoving them under a radiator or houseplant.) I don't know if she doesn't like them or if she's saving them for later -- often if we retrieve the treat and give it to her again, she eats it right away. She only does this with Dentastix, not other treats. Mysterious.

Anyway, this morning she tried to bury her treat in the "wandering dude" plant, trailing across the floor and around the other plants in the living room. In the process she broke many of the stems, so the dude needed an emergency pruning job.

All this before I could even get coffee!


Yesterday we went to the cemetery, where she chased squirrels while on her extra-long lead. She gave my arm a workout.

Otherwise I mostly read. I'm almost done with Derek Jarman. We're in the last year of his life, and his medical struggles have intensified so that's become bleak. But his mind remains sharp and his social criticisms interesting. Yesterday, for example, I read this passage reflecting on people who are especially attached to the place of their birth or childhood:

"Peter worrying about his Welsh maiden. I told him to forget her. Who wants to be married to scenery? People who hail from these postcard childhoods, and won't let you forget it, seem so retarded, often the more ghastly these places are the more they are defended. People who come from 'somewhere' enter life old-fashioned and rather regressive. The cool thing is to come from nowhere and then the future can flourish...My criticism of being married to scenery comes right over into the film ["Wittgenstein"], which is set nowhere. It demonstrates that the historicizing attitude to biopic is totally irrelevant, questioning all of that in one black drape. It goes to show that Vienna is just a grand piano. Places are no longer of much interest to the sophisticated, after all they are all the same: you buy your Thai meal in Soho and your steak and chips in Bangkok."

Jarman was born in suburban London, so his own origins probably contribute to that perspective. He wasn't born anywhere unusual. I don't find places uninteresting, but I do agree that being too attached to the past, too anchored to self and identity, can hinder the future.

He is also endlessly critical of the royal family:

"We are taking off on this windy day for a holiday that has been cancelled endlessly by illness. The hovercraft is called Princess Margaret, it presumably runs on gin. A hovercraft is a lumbering sort of thing, rather like a large black beetle, which you can't quite believe flies. It seems to date from another technology, like Princess Margaret. I suspect she wears rubber skirts too."

Dave ordered some new clothes from Land's End (not rubber skirts) and they arrived yesterday. He's just been trying on a couple of the shirts and they are huge. "Is this too big?" he asked me, wearing something akin to a striped slipcover. Turns out he ordered everything XXL, which is way too big even for him. I don't know what he was thinking but I will probably wind up schlepping it all to the post office to send it back.


This is sitting in front of the house waiting for collection by the council -- our old disintegrating garden bench and the rusty wheelbarrow I used to transport Olga on her last trip to the vet. I'm glad to get rid of both items.

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  1. Seeing the garden bench sitting out there, I finally appreciate how tired it is. It always had its charm in the garden. That’s funny about Bailey and the Dentastix. I wonder if that behavior will change or if you’ll ever know why she does it that way.

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    1. Yeah, when it started losing slats we knew we had to get rid of it -- or risk falling through!

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  2. I remember dogs liking to bury meaty bones until the meat rotted a bit. I don't think it was about hiding it from other dogs as they would smell it too.
    Jarman was nothing if not interesting. I am amused by his Princess Margaret references.
    If like here, more expensive brands tend to be larger sizes. A cheap XL shirt may not fit whereby an expensive XL shirt will fit. Beware of the label words 'Slim fit'.

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    1. It could be she thinks a Dentastix is a bone. I thought the Princess Margaret stuff was funny too. I have some slim fit shirts but I think I'm going to give them all to charity now that I'm not working -- I'm aiming for comfort!

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  3. "Places are no longer of much interest to the sophisticated"... What a dumb and unsophisticated thing to say. He chose Dungeness which is in its own right a very special place. That's why Jarman chose it!
    As for Bailey and the "Dentastix", may I suggest that the next time you give her one you and Dave should demonstrate the process of simply chewing them. A few growls and "woofs" should be thrown in. Then Bailey will better understand what is expected.

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    1. And he lived in London his entire life, so you could argue that also betrays his assertion that places don't matter!

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  4. If only dogs could talk, we would see the logic, I'm sure. Woof ! 🐾
    I used to live near a cemetary, in London as a matter of fact, where
    I worked as a chambre-maid in a hotel (a summerjob) at the age of 20.
    London is great 🧡 It's so nice to see London in your photos.

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    1. Glad you're enjoying the pictures and they're triggering some good memories!

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  5. Funny to see you putting things out ...you're usually the one to pick treasures up and bring them home!!

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    1. Ha! Well, even I have a point at which a useful object becomes trash. :)

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  6. Well, I fully and freely admit to be unsophisticated. Places DO matter to me, and I am fortunate in calling three places "home", without reservation: My birth town, where I still live, my husband's village 150 km away from that town, and Ripon. If loving these places stops me from personal development, then so be it.

    Bailey's behaviour with this particular treat is indeed mysterious! If only she could talk...

    I can perfectly understand you being glad to be rid of the bench and the wheelbarrow.

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    1. I included that Jarman quote partly because I thought people would find it provocative! I also have places that matter to me, like my hometown, though I don't intend to live there again. In fact the hometown that I feel affection for is not the town in its current state, which is completely different from when I lived there.

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  7. Interesting passage. I always tell people with some sense of pride that I come from Southeast Iowa but I can tell immediately that it impresses nobody except those who also come from the same region and then their eyes light up. But I'm not sure that anchors me to the place. It is more like an affirmation of how we were brought up, like those of a particular suburb of London might share.

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    1. I think we all feel some sense of connection to our roots. I think Jarman is being critical of people who can't move beyond them. That's how I interpret what he's saying, anyway.

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  8. I little Ozzo used to "bury" treats he either didn't care for or was saving for a rainy day all around the house. It was like Easter trying to find his version of eggs.

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    1. Ha! I never imagined a dog would "bury" things indoors.

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  9. My birthplace, and time there, shapes me, but I am so glad I moved beyond there, and I have no desire to move back.

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  10. I'm wondering: Was food once scarce for Bailey and she is burying the Dentastix to ensure she has a stash? She has no worries now! All dogs have quirks and some remain mysteries.

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    1. It's possible she's hedging against food scarcity, though I'm not sure she's capable of planning that far ahead!

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  11. Dogs are no respecters of plant life!

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  12. I've mostly lived in the Chicagoland area and I'm fine with that.

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    1. And Jarman lived in Londonland, so it's reasonable to question his remarks!

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  13. I don't know - I get weary of people who think they're sophisticated ragging on those they look down on. What makes them so special? Maybe a stint in the Welsh countryside (as, perhaps, a day laborer) would shake up their ennui.

    On the other hand, I remember getting very tired of a college boyfriend going on and on about how special his SC hometown was. I definitely didn't feel the same way about my hometown!

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    1. There is a certain arrogance to Jarman's comment, I agree. But I think your experience with your former boyfriend illustrates exactly what he's talking about!

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  14. As I read the Jarman quotes I was thinking about how "married" I am to Roseland. I have often wondered how and why I am still so strongly drawn to that area when so many truly horrible things happened in my childhood when I lived there. I can only come up with the answer that none of that was the fault of where I was living and in fact, it was the river and the trees and the ocean too, that sustained me. It was a place my imagination could take me far away.

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    1. Yeah, in your case, Roseland is a source of comfort despite those horrors. And you DID move away and make a life for yourself elsewhere, which I think is his point. People can't let their pasts hold them hostage.

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  15. I always have to chuckle when our cat covers up what is left of her supper, burying it with air. Our beagle was awful for burying bones and then digging them up later. The bones were covered with dirt, and she then wanted to bring it inside.

    AIDS was a shitty way to die. I spent two years in the 80's caring for AIDS patients and it was heartbreaking, not only how they died, but how some of the nurses treated them.

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    1. As well as, in some cases, their own families.

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    2. Yeah, Jarman talks about that in his diaries -- how some nurses wouldn't touch the patients or refused to treat them. Ugh to the bones! So far Bailey hasn't hauled a dirty Dentastix into the house.

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  16. Not sure how it works in England (do they have a UK fulfillment spot for Land's End?) but if they don't, bring them back to the US next month and mail from there. You will be within return time. They have some bar code thing and you can take them to whatever spot they tell you (I think for me it's UPS) and they package it up. The return fee is the same. You don't have to pay if you take Land's End credit (which, since it's about the only place I buy clothes, I do.) Otherwise, they delete postage from your return. Might save bucks. Maybe if they have UK fulfillment and it doesn't have to go back to the US it works the same.

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    1. I think these were sent from the UK. In fact I thought Land's End was based here? I thought it was named for Cornwall? I recall the return system working something like you describe.

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  17. Interesting the way Bailey treats the Dentastix. Maybe it's kind like the way we humans tend to save the most tasty bit of our meal for the last.
    I can see why it was time for that bench to go.

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  18. I guess I'm not very literary because both those passages went right past me. I'm not particularly married to the Texas Gulf Coast I don't think, but here I am still. If I was younger with no obligations like children and the wherewithal I think I might move elsewhere. What keeps me here now is family...kids, grandkids, great grandkids.

    My yellow angel trumpet bloomed this spring and I expect it will bloom again this fall. I was actually surprised that it bloomed this spring.

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    1. And of course Jarman made these assertions having less extensive family ties and no children of his own. I think he was just sick of people who tirelessly rhapsodized about their hometowns as if they were the Emerald City. I didn't realize the angel trumpets bloom in the fall too. Is that typical?

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  19. She is definitely 'a unit', but a very lovely one at that. :-)

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  20. I think Bailey is a bit of a bulldozer. One of our Rotties was, with no respect for anything she trampled (including us). I hope she doesn't wrap you around a grave stone, pulling it down in the process!

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    1. Yes, a bulldozer indeed. (In fact I described her that way in my subsequent post!) I do have to be careful with the long lead and keep her somewhat reined in so she doesn't get tangled in the stones or bushes.

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  21. From photos I've seen, Dave looks nothing like an XXL. I was born where I live now, mainly because my people are here. I don't care as much about scenery as I do about my friends and family.

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    1. And Jarman made those comments but still lived most of his life in London, so there you go. I don't know what Dave was thinking ordering XXL!

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  22. Not sure what those stix are made from, but my granddog was burying treats under mulch one fall. We got snow that winter and he dug them up in the spring. Unfortunately the warm weather and wet ground lead to mold and fungus and when he ate them he suffered seizures and a mini stroke. He is okay now (sometimes goes in an arc instead of a straight line) but you might not want food items buried.

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    1. Yikes! Thanks for the warning. I don't think a Dentastix would last that long in the ground, but in any case the foxes will get them before the dog could dig them up again.

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  23. Everyone has an opinion, don't they? Quite honestly, I find Jarman's observations a bit harsh and judgemental. What does it matter really if someone loves a place? I think it is a very human trait. We love. People, places, even our dogs.

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    1. As I said to Meike above, I also thought it was a rather provocative comment. I suspect he means people who are tiresome in their single-minded attachment to a place, who can't move on from that place either physically or mentally -- but there's an element of judgment in that too.

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  24. The garden bench certainly is falling apart. I'll trade you wheel barrows.

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    1. Ha! If I could send it to you I would -- but it was very rusty. (Worse than it looks in the picture.)

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  25. "she gave my arm a workout" you're going to have to remember to switch arms each time or you will end up with one regular arm and one "Popeye" arm. Funny about burying the Dentastix, probably it improves the flavour. You don't want to fill the wheelbarrow with soil and petunias?

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    1. That's what I did (not petunias though). It would certainly lift plants out of reach of your canine bulldozer though.

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    2. Yeah, I do switch arms for just that reason! (Plus I don't want too much stress on one shoulder joint.) I don't think I'm ready for a wheelbarrow full of petunias. :)

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