tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post8566756842876157625..comments2024-03-28T10:36:00.148+00:00Comments on Shadows & Light: The Move to Memory CareSteve Reedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11684120060438252945noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-77142047767571663462019-10-02T13:53:40.593+01:002019-10-02T13:53:40.593+01:00It went so well. Your mother read your good and lo...It went so well. Your mother read your good and loving intention for her and rolled with it. Good job brothers Reed!37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-51256684838001546512019-09-26T19:30:33.820+01:002019-09-26T19:30:33.820+01:00I'm glad the move went well!
Family stuff like...I'm glad the move went well!<br />Family stuff like this can be The Hardest.<br /><br />I have a friend whose family successfully pulled off a similar apartment-swap for their parents:<br />they rapidly re-created the parents' old apt. in assisated living in a new one in Memory Care, while the parents were out. They don't think the parents even noticed.<br /><br />In time, the parents even went from some resentment of staff in their apartment to saying, "They treat us so wonderfully!"<br /><br />So here's hoping your mother's acceptance continues... <br />Well done, you.<br />Frescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15323129046492056942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-7353151896533998062019-09-26T17:55:15.498+01:002019-09-26T17:55:15.498+01:00Well done, Steve. Well done! You boys did a grea...Well done, Steve. Well done! You boys did a great job of moving Mom with very little stress. I'm sure in her mind, she knows she's been moved. I'm glad it went so well. Enjoy your visit tomorrow. Hugs, Edna B.Edna Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02550994321689374875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-59212792067410873282019-09-25T08:30:09.855+01:002019-09-25T08:30:09.855+01:00Excellent news that your Mum took it in her stride...Excellent news that your Mum took it in her stride, and well done you 2 brothers! You can hopefully enjoy the rest of your time ( holiday) there now.Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576715462615744934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-48096921528169316412019-09-25T01:58:21.893+01:002019-09-25T01:58:21.893+01:00That's a job well done. It's a difficult s...That's a job well done. It's a difficult situation when they're dealing with someone who can be irrational.Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17996243850279671523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-32192945633857713292019-09-24T21:14:46.069+01:002019-09-24T21:14:46.069+01:00A good point Comox Valley..the new home looks like...A good point Comox Valley..the new home looks like the old. Has anyone mentioned playing the music that she liked as she grew up and raised a family?gzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08034777779347889773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-29723002182679976152019-09-24T19:03:25.774+01:002019-09-24T19:03:25.774+01:00Your mom raised two wonderful caring sons, glad t...Your mom raised two wonderful caring sons, glad that you were there to help with the transition to a new place and how kind that your brother decorated her new home much like the old. Comox Valley and beyondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14592683050512187874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-22343490217021292482019-09-24T17:59:42.007+01:002019-09-24T17:59:42.007+01:00Oh well done with so much thought and love. I am s...Oh well done with so much thought and love. I am sure she knows this somehow.Sabinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09015827501648296977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-90876861544762836032019-09-24T17:39:06.701+01:002019-09-24T17:39:06.701+01:00I'm glad to hear that everything went smoothly...I'm glad to hear that everything went smoothly. I didn't mean to imply that you and your brother hadn't explained things to her. my mother's dementia took a different form.ellen abbotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00535475792150335186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-9165118414619001462019-09-24T17:27:03.744+01:002019-09-24T17:27:03.744+01:00Well done! She may be relieved and enjoy the extra...Well done! She may be relieved and enjoy the extra attention.ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-13837657247287030572019-09-24T16:47:19.576+01:002019-09-24T16:47:19.576+01:00The ease with which she accepted the move is rathe...The ease with which she accepted the move is rather amazing. Good work, lads.Catalysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03804837416104556928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-67797221242395704702019-09-24T16:28:18.396+01:002019-09-24T16:28:18.396+01:00You had a great plan and that was probably the big...You had a great plan and that was probably the biggest key to your success. Great job, Steve and Brother. Fingers crossed that your mom's contentment was a sign of things to come.<br /><br />I'm taking notes! Prepare, prepare, prepare. jenny_ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15475480579733466963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-52207761622933124672019-09-24T15:58:52.636+01:002019-09-24T15:58:52.636+01:00Very well done! You two planned this very well an...Very well done! You two planned this very well and it sounds like it all went very smoothly. I hope you mother continues to find comfort in the extra care she will be getting. Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07645915869786296771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-80869733549854270812019-09-24T14:57:22.534+01:002019-09-24T14:57:22.534+01:00You and your brother are such wonderful, loving so...You and your brother are such wonderful, loving sons. Memory issues in the elderly are so incredibly challenging. It's really great that you found a good supportive place for your mom to be. It makes life so much easier when you know that she's in good, kind, and loving care. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-41986594484735541762019-09-24T13:58:08.221+01:002019-09-24T13:58:08.221+01:00I don't see how it could have gone any better....I don't see how it could have gone any better. I'm so glad. Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-83014316914790024042019-09-24T13:39:14.032+01:002019-09-24T13:39:14.032+01:00When he's fully present, Mike's dad talks ...When he's fully present, Mike's dad talks about how he doesn't know how long he'll be able to live at home, but we worry about what it will be like when we finally have to move him to some sort of assisted living. Hopefully it will be like your experience!The Bughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07509037206264761261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-36277902969475059002019-09-24T13:35:34.781+01:002019-09-24T13:35:34.781+01:00Handled with such tenderness and love. You've ...Handled with such tenderness and love. You've done all you could. Well done.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09895379382598203558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-86339400716119784392019-09-24T12:54:38.469+01:002019-09-24T12:54:38.469+01:00Sensitively dealt with by all involved and the lov...Sensitively dealt with by all involved and the love that you and your brother still feel for your mother underpinned the whole process. Those of us who are younger than her wear metaphorical blinkers about the trials of old age, perhaps saying to ourselves, "That will never happen to me!" We are probably very wrong about that.Yorkshire Puddinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06019673884543913089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-48529119637669620602019-09-24T12:39:42.248+01:002019-09-24T12:39:42.248+01:00Well done. I can't imagine a less stressful mo...Well done. I can't imagine a less stressful moving day. It seems that when memory goes, the essence of a personality is what takes over and at heart, your mother seems like a kind, happy person. Her deepest self will guide her. Vivian Swifthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12198077488226047493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5123631695572626256.post-57513550793104218492019-09-24T12:03:11.245+01:002019-09-24T12:03:11.245+01:00I often wonder what it must be like to have memory...I often wonder what it must be like to have memory troubles. I suppose if you are happy with it it might even be quite nice to be in fairyland but some people get angry and confused don't they? You and your brother are wonderful to care so much.<br />I hope she remains happy, you've done your best.<br />Hugs<br />Briony<br />xcrafty cat cornerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251582085392890533noreply@blogger.com