Sunday, April 5, 2026

The Cemetery and Storm Dave


I spent yesterday morning doing stuff around the house, and by early afternoon I was ready to get out and about. I decided to walk up to the cemetery, where I hadn't been in a while. Going there always makes me think of Olga but that isn't a bad thing. I made some coffee in my travel mug and brought it with me.

I found this little rocking horse outside the church on the corner. I texted Dave a photo. "No," he wrote back. (Although I do love my rocking unicorn, I actually wouldn't have taken this one -- not only because I don't need it, but also because it's upholstered. I don't mind picking up hard furniture but upholstery gives me the willies. It was gone when I walked past again a little later.)


The wood anemones are just starting to bloom. They seem a bit behind this year. I'm pretty sure they typically have more blossoms by this time in April.


It felt good to walk the paths that I used to take at least once a week with Olga. I'm sure I've photographed this familiar monument before -- it's lying flat on the ground, having long ago fallen over.


This crabapple tree is in fine form. Technically it's an Asiatic apple (Malus spectabilis), according to my plant identifier. I would have just said crabapple, but whatever.


I've always found this an interesting (and sad) headstone. My first thought, upon reading it, was that Stebbing must have been much older than his wife Ada, who lived for almost forty years after the death of her husband. But in fact he was only eight years older. She just lived an incredibly long time.

Their son, Jackie, is memorialized on this page at the web site of the military cemetery in Belgium where he is buried. There's even a picture of him. He died of wounds "received before Comines," which probably means the offensive to liberate Comines from the Germans in late September 1918. Such an incredible tragedy, all those boys on both sides, killing each other in drives to recapture or defend a couple of miles of territory. It must have been devastating for Jackie's parents -- a story repeated hundreds of thousands of times across England in those years.



Last night we had some really intense winds and spattery rain, I assume related to Storm Dave (a name which, of course, greatly amuses my Dave). I got up in the middle of the night and saw the avocado on its side on the patio, but I waited until this morning to lift it back into place. It had minimal damage -- a clump of leaves broke off but otherwise it seems fine.

I guess this is a sign that it has once again outgrown its pot, which seemed huge when I repotted it a couple of years ago. I'm not sure where to go from here. Maybe we should just put it in the ground. The only reason to keep it in a pot was to be able to move it inside if necessary, but it's too big for that now anyway.

33 comments:

  1. I expect that you regularly suffer Storm Dave when he sweeps home after hard days of encouraging musical appreciation at the coalface of education. "They just won't listen Steve!" he thunders.

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  2. A couple of times I have started an avocado stone to grow into a tree to furnish me with my favourite avocados but of course, wrong country, wrong weather. I would plant yours and hope for the best.

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  3. What a glorious pink on that crab apple. As for the rocking horse - definitely not!

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  4. I'm sure the avocado tree will do well planted out in a suitably sheltered spot. You could still wrap it up during the cold winter days?

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  5. They don't like to cold and wet at all, so once in the ground it's a risk, having said that our winters are much warmer and we don't get that much snow. I would suggest if you plant it, dig a huge hole and put loads of gravel to allow good drainage.

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  6. The gravestone alone makes for a fascinating story. My favorite tree at our house when I was little was a malus spectabilis, although it might not have been had I been required to call it by that name (or maybe it would have, even more). The poor avocado. Reminds me of the yuccas on our terrace the first year we lived on the beach. Storm Dave. So that’s what you’re calling him now. Hurricane Mitch hit California just as I was about to move from San Diego to San Francisco. My San Diego staff thought it was hilarious. I think maybe my Berkeley staff didn’t find it quite so funny.

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  7. I love that Dave knows you so well a simple "No" text is all that's needed.

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  8. I agree with Bob! I was thinking the same thing!

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  9. If that were my avocado plant I'd consider root pruning then replacing with some new soil in the same pot. I did that a couple of times for my ficus to keep it in a pot I could wrangle.

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  10. Dave was wise to tell you no.
    Deaths of young men in wars past are so sad, but even sadder is the death of kids in current wars. No child signed up for this.
    We had a gorgeous crab apple tree in the 90s. I would not call the one you snapped as gorgeous. Perhaps it needs a trim.
    Maybe the strong winds came in from Canada, where a blogmate's husband opened the apartment door when the balcony door was opened, and a potted plant was blown over by a wind blast.

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  11. What would our cemetery markers read?

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  12. An entire family history on a headstone. How strange for a woman to live almost an entire life after the death of a husband. I wonder if what would have been a monumental loss at the time because almost a hazy memory after forty years.
    Yeah. It may be time to plant that tree in the ground. Or, as Boud suggested, do some major root surgery and trimming above as well. My mango got really, really nipped in that last surprise freeze and I still haven't trimmed it up yet. It makes me sad.

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  13. Maybe war is how humans cull the most aggressive males. Sad to think a species would have to do that to survive. I might have tried to lift up the moss covered angel but perhaps she's bigger than she looks. Beautiful tree and I imagine the ground will be littered with crabapples. I have a red bud tree in a big pot that I have to take out and replant in fresh dirt every few years or so but then they don't get as big s avocado trees do. And it has settled into dwarf size. Hasn't gotten much bigger in long time. I knew a guy that was into bonsai and he tried to bonsai a redbud but he said they wouldn't adapt. That to get the miniature leaves you have to strip it several times but the redbud leaves kept coming out full size.

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    1. It isn't the most aggressive males who get culled, it is the young and innocent soldiers who get sent to do the fighting/shooting etc while the much older aggressive males sit back and make those poor decisions.

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  14. Glad your avocado tree survived Storm Dave.
    My Dad used to take us on drives in the country when we were kids and we always stopped at old cemeteries. We would race around and see who could find the oldest gravestone. Your post brought that happy memory back to me today. Thanks!

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  15. The Russel memorial covers a lot of history. The stone seems to be well cared for.

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  16. That stone is heartbreaking. And yes, the same story played out again and again. Indeed, it is playing out still.

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  17. World War I was so unbearably tragic. I mean, all war is, but that one, where the killing technology so far outpaced the defensive technology. Brutal.

    I'm glad you took a walk & I love the photos, especially the angel on the ground. Seems apt.

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  18. That Russel monument is quite sad. That poor woman lost her husband and her son. That angel statue looks like it's about to meld into the earth. That crabapple tree is beautiful.

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  19. The rocking horse looks so sweet, but I would have left it, too. It's almost time to put the indoor plants outside again, but I'll wait until all danger of frost is gone.

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  20. I'm glad it felt good to walk the Olga paths. It's a beautiful place, isn't it? That tree, the memorials. I like that. What history. I don't pick up curbside upholstered things either -- too big a chance of bedbugs! Glad the avocado made it. I have a feeling you'll be remembering Storm Dave as a future reference, in case things ever get testy at home!

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  21. I laughed at Dave's one word NO. He's adept at shutting down your collecting tendencies. :) 19 years old, that's so sad. Too many wars and deaths.

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  22. Just caught up on a week and woo hoo - pretend retirement for a week before the real thing - how truly wonderful.
    I remember when there were 2 cyclones on the go - normally they are named alphabetically and they alternate male and female names these days, however in this instance another was named in a different region and came into our waters - and they were the same name as my husband and my daughter - so pretty much business as usual!

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  23. I love that moss covered angel, or is it a fairy? The wings are more fairy-like, not that I've seen angel OR fairy wings in real life!

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  24. Dave was right on the rocking horse. Seeing that headstone brought back some really sad memories. Allison & I were in the former Eastern Zone of Germany in 2016. We went through some cemeteries in several small towns between the Polish border and Berlin. Those cemeteries were full of the graves of 14, 15, & 16 yr old boys that were killed in the Russian drive toward Berlin in the final days of WWII. Just boys forced into the military in a fruitless attempt to stop the Russians. There were also headstones similar to the one in your photo, and many of those had family members who perished at the same time. Tragic and chilling experience, what a waste of lives.

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  25. You shall rebuild, after Dave's fiercely violent winds. Huff and puff and blow your plant down. It is large enough to put in the ground, I reckon. Ours is still struggling to thrive under the flamingo disco light. Now that you are retired, you can go to Nun's Head every afternoon and get some spooky shots! Wish I could go too, glad I went...several times while @spiderman's shite hole. Was just up the street about 35 minutes. Anyway, SO looking forward to your photographic adventures soon! You're the best!

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  26. Those are beautiful apple blossoms.
    The headstone is so sad but a lovely tribute to loved ones.
    I do think, if you plant the avocado in a somewhat sheltered spot, it might thrive outside without the winter coverings and all the work that goes along with that.

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  27. That little rocking horse is very colourful.
    Lovely blossoms.

    All the best Jan

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  28. I think the avocado gods have spoken, time to plant it in the ground:)

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  29. You need a much heavier pot for a tree that size, something in terracotta or ceramic, maybe even a concrete pot which you could paint to disguise the greyness of it. I would have left that rocking horse too.

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  30. A very sad family story, and repeated way too any times all over the world.
    The anemonae do indeed seem a bit behind in your area. Here, their time is nearly over.
    Good to know the avocado did not come to much harm by being blown over.

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  31. While Storm Dave was a wild chap, he didn't do much damage in our garden thank goodness. He did, however, lock me in the house by manoeuvring the wheelie bins in such a way that they totally blocked the front door and attached themselves to each other.

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  32. I could waste a lot of time reading gravestones in a cemetery and musing about the lives of people I've never met.

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