Wednesday, July 1, 2026

Zinnia and Jersey Tiger


Finally, FINALLY, a zinnia is making its appearance! It's taken a couple of months for the plants to get big enough to bloom -- when I look back at how tiny they were when I first planted them out, I guess that's not surprising.

We've actually done OK when it comes to seedling survival. I lost three zinnias almost right away, all to slugs, but two more zinnias, my four sunflowers and my cosmos have grown well. I planted an additional two zinnias a bit later that also seem fine. So we should have some more flowers coming up.

Dave and I went all the way down to Greenwich yesterday -- basically the opposite end of London -- to have lunch with our friends Mike and Sally, who live down that way. We hadn't seen them in more than a year, and before that it had been two years, so we really need to get better about spending more time together. Three of the four of us are retired now, so maybe that will help!

Anyway, we had lunch at the local Banana Tree (one of a chain of Asian food restaurants), and I had a yummy curry and two lychee mojitos. (They had a two-for-one deal on the drinks, and I could hardly let that second one go to waste, right?) I'd hoped to also visit my favorite junk shop in London, which is right down the road from there, but I had to get back home by 4 p.m. for a call with  my financial advisor. We had to skedaddle.

And can you believe I didn't take a single picture on that whole outing? I must be losing my touch.


That's why you're getting more pictures of the garden.


When I took the trash out yesterday, I found a Jersey tiger moth sitting atop the bins. It seemed like a bad place to be, so I gingerly moved it to a nearby buddleia plant. I think it must have been newly emerged, or maybe just damp, because it seemed a bit clumsy and uncoordinated -- I tried to prompt it to fly so I could show you its beautiful underwings, and instead it just flopped over on its back. Message to moth: Don't do THAT when a bird is hanging over you! Anyway, hopefully once it dried out it became a bit more agile.

Dave and I had a weird experience watching an episode of "The Golden Girls" last night. (Yes, we watch "The Golden Girls." We are gay men of a certain age and it's required.) Blanche said to Dorothy and Rose, "I am abhorred," and of course that became the basis of a joke. But I think using "abhorred" that way is grammatically incorrect, isn't it? I don't think a person can BE abhorred, except by someone else; I think they have to abhor something. It's a transitive verb that needs an object.

In fact, we weren't even sure what she was saying at first. I had to put on the closed captioning to understand her -- a sure sign that I am becoming my parents!

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  1. STEVE Hello?
    FAGIN Hi Steve. It's me Fagin. Just calling you for a health check on your finances.
    STEVE What do you advise Fagin?
    FAGIN Well there has been unusual activity on your accounts but I have a solution.
    STEVE What's that?
    FAGIN Temporarily you need to transfer all of your money into one of my personal accounts. Then when I return from my holiday in The Bahamas we will make new arrangements to protect your money and see it grow.
    STEVE Oh thanks Fagin! You are a great adviser. Can you give me your personal account details?
    FAGIN I think that my offshore account in The Cayman Islands will be best. Are you ready for the numbers?
    STEVE Go ahead Fagin...

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    1. Fortunately it's a video call, so I can be sure the person on the other end is not "Fagin"!

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  2. That moth and your garden are lovely, watching the emergence of a dragonfly is also good. Surely you can only be abhorred by something that is tangible.

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    1. Yes, you can be abhorred by someone else, but you can't describe your own mood as "abhorred." Not like, "I'm shocked" or "I'm appalled." Know what I mean?

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  3. She could be abhorrent. But I don't know why she'd say that about herself. I certainly appreciate your upholding the gay obligation about Golden Girls!

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    1. It is funny wordplay. Replacing the familiar "adored" with "abhorred".

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    2. Actually, it set up Sophia to insult Blanche. Blanche said "I am abhorred," and Sophia said something like, "I know what you are, Blanche, and I'm glad to hear you admit it." Click the link in the post for the video clip.

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  4. My motto for planting just about anything is to plant enough for wildlife AND me.

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    1. That's a great motto! I would do the same if I had more room! We've pretty much taken to planting things that wildlife won't want.

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  5. I hope I understand this but can't you be abhorred by someone? And you could be a person who is abhorred. I don't remember Blanche mixing up words, so I doubt she meant adored. Your lunch with friends sounds nice, even if you had to cross the river.

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    1. Blanche was saying "I am abhorred" in a similar sense to "I am appalled." And abhorred can't be used that way. It was a setup for a joke, which if you click the video link in my post will make more sense. (It's too long to explain in writing!)

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  6. I'd never heard the word abhorred before so I looked it up:
    Abhorred (adjective or past-tense verb) means to regard something with extreme disgust, hatred, or loathing. It describes a deep, intense aversion or repugnance toward an action, person, or thing.
    Makes sense, though I would think Blanche would say appalled!!

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    1. Yeah, you can abhor SOMETHING, but you can't simply describe yourself as abhorred (except by someone else). In other words, the verb needs an object.

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  7. Pretty little tiger moth! I hope it gets to live out its entire little life.
    I am pretty sure that you're right and "abhorred" is definitely not used correctly but they were able to get the cheap "whore" joke in there.

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    1. Yeah, I think the writers simply bent the language to their ends! And maybe hoped no one would notice?

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  8. We had lunch in a pub in Greenwich - near where my grandmother was born.

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    1. Which one, do you remember? There are a ton of pubs there, obviously, but I've been to several! (The Gipsy Moth comes to mind.)

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  9. Your jungle, er garden, is fantastic looking. Sure you have enough plants for yourselves and the critters!

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  10. Very pretty moth with it's bright red underwings. And yeah, the verb is misused. But, you know, language. People mangle it and make up new usages all the time.

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    1. It's true -- language changes slowly and steadily.

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  11. The Golden Girls issue reminds me that I did know grammar but it has slowly drifted away from my retired mind.

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    1. It's kind of like algebra -- at some point you just don't have to know it anymore!

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  12. I hope the pretty little moth survived. The garden looks so gorgeous. Flowers in every direction. A trip to Greenwich sounds delightful to me.

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    1. I have no reason to think it didn't survive. I think it was just chilling out, letting its wings dry.

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  13. The moth is stunning.
    In the Christmas carol, 'O, come all ye faithful' there is a line, 'lo, he abhors not the virgin's womb,' so Mary, the subject, could have said, 'I am not abhorred,' but it wouldn't have meant 'appalled.'

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    1. Exactly! Her womb could be the subject (or not) of God's abhorrence, but she could not describe herself as abhorred without someone to do the abhorring.

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  14. Zinnias have very cheerful faces and bloom in lots of colors. Your red and yellow zinnia is lovely.
    I find misuse of a word when speaking less egregious than in writing. If the message gets across, I'm okay. My favorite Uncle (grammarian) thought otherwise. I, too, have been corrected.
    3 out of 4 retired should bring more get-togethers. A nice meal together and a catch-up sounds great. The cocktail special deal makes it even better.

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    1. I think what made this misuse stand out was we didn't understand the spoken sentence, because the word in that context didn't quite make sense.

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  15. Nope, I’ve never heard of the expression “I am abhorred.” It really doesn’t make any sense. Maybe Blanche meant “I am a whore”? Thanks for sharing the video of the tiger month. What a beauty. Another stunning photo of your garden.

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    1. Well, that's exactly the joke! She said "I am abhorred" but Sophia heard it the way you did. The writers bent the language to make their joke work, basically.

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  16. Was she using abhorred in the passive voice? I am abhorred by so-and-so. Pretty moth! I love zinnias. I'm into flowers with lots of colorful petals.

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    1. No, she was describing her own mood, in the same sense as "I'm shocked" or "I'm happy." And "I'm abhorred" doesn't work that way. This is turning out to be a really nice zinnia!

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  17. We are all becoming our parents. It's just what we do, no matter what we tell ourselves. And sometimes it's OK to just have a wonderful time and forget the photo! The yard looks spectacular!

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    1. I must admit it was nice to not think about photography for a moment!

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  18. A beautiful zinnia ...
    Happy July.

    All the best Jan

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  19. I'm abhorred that you are discussing the grammar of Golden Girls! :)

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    1. Ha! Extra points for turning my grammar lesson into a joke!

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  20. I agree "abhorred" is wrong but having it out of context I don't know what should have been said instead. Horrified? Disgusted? Anyway, your garden photos are lovely and I am happy some zinnias have survived for you.

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    1. The only reason she said it was to set up the joke, and I suppose no other word would have worked as well, which is why the writers used it even if it wasn't quite correct.

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