I took this on my walk home last night. That's the Alexandra and Ainsworth Estate on the right, which I've shown many times on this blog, with a couple of high-rise council blocks in the background. The building on the left is relatively new, and replaced this.
Once again, I don't have much to write about today. My days are busy but they feel very routine. Dave and I have been talking about how we feel sort of stuck. We've been living in London for 14 years, doing the same jobs, mostly in the same apartment, and I think we're considering changing things up. What that would look like I don't know. Maybe we'll move to a new flat, or maybe we'll make bigger changes.
Or maybe we just need to make some plans for our next steps so that we feel like we're going somewhere. I don't think either of us have a very clear picture of what the future should hold for us. Where do we want to retire? Do we stay in the UK? Do we move back to the states, or move elsewhere? The big question there is health insurance -- we obviously can't go back to the states unless we have jobs that include insurance, at least until we're old enough to get Medicare, assuming it still exists by then.
More immediately, we need to decide whether or not we're visiting the states anytime soon. My brother and step-sister have both had health issues in the last year, and Dave's father has been in the hospital with back problems. I think we need to go to Florida, but first we need to sort out care for Olga, which is easier said than done.
And of course Dave is still recovering from his own surgery, so we can't push anything too quickly. He's not even back at work yet. (Maybe next week.)
So, a lot to think about. I guess I'm just feeling restless.
On an international level, did any of you read Thomas Friedman's column in the Times about why Trump's seemingly offhand remarks about Greenland and Panama are so serious? People think he's just being quirky and trolling other world leaders, but I thought Friedman made a very good point. How can the United States stand for international justice, and against other regimes that are bent on forcibly expanding their own borders, when we're threatening to do the same? We are sending a dangerous message.
I got great pleasure out of hearing Steve Bannon attacking Elon Musk. Let these bastards consume each other. There's no chance that the MAGA leaders won't be relentlessly infighting for the next four years, since they all have gigantic egos and are incapable of compromise or moderation. As the Chinese allegedly say, "May you live in interesting times."
Here are some orchids in the front window, from the orchid bonanza I found a couple of years ago. One of those plants died in short order, but the rest are all still plugging away and several of them have bloomed again. In fact I have several orchids that are budding.
I have a couple more, though, that have recently bloomed and then lost all their leaves, as if they were so exhausted they couldn't even support foliage. I'm not sure what's going on there or whether they'll survive. I keep hearing that orchids can live for decades, but a few of mine (all moth orchids like the one above) have perished at about the eight-year mark. Maybe I'm just not good with geriatric orchids?
I have a couple more, though, that have recently bloomed and then lost all their leaves, as if they were so exhausted they couldn't even support foliage. I'm not sure what's going on there or whether they'll survive. I keep hearing that orchids can live for decades, but a few of mine (all moth orchids like the one above) have perished at about the eight-year mark. Maybe I'm just not good with geriatric orchids?
Sounds like you are, at least mentally, reaching some sort of crossroads. I don't know how long both of you have until retirement, but maybe you are at the stage where, if you want to change jobs, it's now or never.
ReplyDeleteFrom my outsider's perspective, the main thing for now is that both your health issues are dealt with, and then, when you are back to normal in that department, it is time to consider the next step(s).
The yellow orchid is beautiful! My three (two of them were gifts, one I have inherited from a friend's mother when she died) seem to just do as they please, and the more I leave them alone, the better they fare. (I have a black thumb instead of a green one.) I give them a sip of water on Wednesdays and for the weekend, and that's about it.
We're not sure how many years from retirement we are, either. If I work until 65 I have 7 years left, but I may retire earlier than that, and I think Dave is in the same position. Of course there are legal/financial/tax considerations that we still need to look into.
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ReplyDeleteOK, good to know! We have a friend who normally watches Olga and we're trying him first, but I may come knocking!
DeleteMuch for you to ponder and talk about between yourselves. Then you reach an age when it all seems to hard to make a big change, which happened to my Ray, though I had no intention of making any big change. Don't you have work out your head where you would really like to live? Maybe a move to new place once Olga is no longer a consideration. I used to look after the exterior gardens in our various houses, but I didn't miss that one bit. We had huge numbers of indoor and fernery plants to look after, which was mostly Ray's job, but he never missed them either, with only his two indoor plants here to look after (I got rid of one that I disliked) and I have one outdoor plant plus annuals in pots to look after. That is enough.
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to imagine you back in the US, especially Florida, driving everywhere, the climate, alligators! and gosh, the political climate, hate and distrust.
PS Viking Girl might be worth contacting. When our dogs became old, we stopped travelling, but we didn't need to travel for family reasons.
DeleteIt already seems hard to make a big change, but I suppose we could do it. We'd probably need to get rid of some furniture and a lot of plants!
DeleteI think with the president elect, and his pronouncements.. don't look at what is getting the attention, look what is sneaking in through the side door....
ReplyDeleteThat is absolutely true, though I'm not sure Trump is smart or strategic enough to purposefully divert people's attention.
DeleteI recognise that feeling. It got to me in my fifties but it was difficult by then to make any major changes, just a sideways step into a new job.
ReplyDeleteHopefully you will both come to a satisfactory decision and turn a new corner that leads in a pleasing direction.
There ... I am all out of clichés now!
Clichés are clichés for a reason!
DeleteAs usual, Meike The Librarian provides intelligent advice that you would do well to take on board. I think mid-January is a time when many people reflect more deeply upon their lives - where things are going and what's next. When Dave is fighting fit and back on the treadmill and the birds of springtime are singing, maybe everything will seem fine again.
ReplyDeleteI think you're right that a lot of this is tied to January doldrums.
DeleteI can't imagine, if I were away, moving back to the United States. Unless where I was was a complete and utter mess. Every day here I cannot believe this dreadful human was re-elected. I can only imagine, and it's horrible, what the next 4 years will bring. Although I just watched an interview w/Pete B. (I think from the University of Michigan) and how we don't give up, we don't stop trying, etc. Good advice; he's a gem.
ReplyDeleteI don't feel like we're shielded from the world's messiness here in the UK, though. Trump is going to be an element in all of our lives, globally! And the UK is going through many of the same populist strife, as are many of the countries in Europe.
DeleteAs you know, I love moving and change so I’m not one to give advice. But I understand the feelings. I can’t imagine going back to the States after 14 years abroad. I did read the Thomas Friedman column and I found it very sobering, as if I needed to be any more sober.
ReplyDeleteI like moving a lot but psychologically it seems a bigger hurdle now.
DeleteI had an orchid for 25 years that bloomed twice every year. I gave it away when I had to move and I think it is still blooming.
ReplyDeleteCheers Peter
Well THAT's amazing! What was your secret? Any tips?
DeleteI do love the MAGAt infighting and the constant calling Elon President Musk.
ReplyDeleteI think The Felon is both dangerous and stupid but hope that our courts and our Congress will stand up to him. I cannot fathom a US that simply takes over other countries. It's a version of Putin's nation building.
I hope you're right about Congress and the courts, but I fear that this MAGA populism has infected all branches of government.
DeleteOh, the political intrigue! Bannon's surely jealous of Musk since he's the newest toy in the box. It's actually not funny, really.
ReplyDeleteThat's a lot to think about- whether to stay or go. Mitchell is a good example of making things work in different places. but of course he and SG have had years of practice, moving from one place to another, making homes as they go. Example and inspiration too, I think.
But you and Dave will figure out what you want and don't want. It. may take some time, though.
Bannon's ire is kind of funny. As is Musk telling Nigel Farage that he's not fit to lead the UK Reform party. As I said on another blog several days ago, even Nigel Farage is apparently too far to the left for Elon Musk!
DeleteI would like to have conversations with Mitchell about all this. A visit to Cordoba may be in order!
I both love and hate change. Well, let's be clear, I don't like the WORK that comes with change. If someone would pack and unpack for me, or apply for the new job & go through the interview process, then I'd be happy for a change. Ha!
ReplyDeleteI get it! It's much easier to stay in place, and I feel the same way!
DeleteI do not take the Orange Shi*Gibbons threats against Greenland and Panama seriously. Nothing that man says will I ever take seriously. And as for you moving, don't move back to the United States. It would be a big mistake.
ReplyDeleteI don't think we should just shrug it off, though. He's a stupid, self-absorbed lunatic but he also has a lot of power and a disturbing number of people who are ready to prove their loyalty to him.
DeleteSounds like you have got a lot things to think about these days. I can totally understand.
ReplyDeleteI didn't read Friedman's column. I'll go back and check it out. I'm a bit on edge about all the changes that are bound to happen after next week.
We'll just have to see how things go. I do think Trump blusters a lot but as I told Dov above, he still merits our attention.
DeleteWhy not take a little trip to Spain in spring, not as tourists, but as possible residents, just to try the idea for size? I wonder how you and Dave could change jobs at this age, if that's another thought. It might be possible but I'm guessing it would need to be to an American employer again, easier acceptance maybe.
ReplyDeleteAnd then again it might just be January and Mr Russia getting you down.
Spain is a possibility, but I read the other day that Spain wants to impose a 100 percent tax on non-EU residents who buy properties there. Yikes! I guess we'd keep renting!
DeleteI think a lot of people question their life in the beginning of a new year. There is no rush for you guys to change right away. I think Meike is right that you both should take care of your health first. Wishing you and Dave and Olga much happiness in 2025!
ReplyDeleteThere is indeed no rush. This is all just me musing about the future. There are no concrete plans.
DeleteI always get this way too in January. What am I doing? Where is my life going? How can I make it better? You're not alone.
ReplyDeleteIt's just so freakin' dark and cold out there! I guess we have to think about SOMETHING! LOL
DeleteI think foremost for me, before retirement, would be a definite job for one of us wherever we moved to. Just pulling up stakes and moving to a different country with no guarantee of employment would be iffy especially in the 50s and 60s age group. Unless of course I had plenty of money that I wouldn't need income. Moving back to the US would be a horrible change. Trump and his cabal are getting ready to purge everyone but loyalists from the governmental agencies. I couldn't even finish reading HRC newsletter from yesterday, to damn depressing.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure we're at the no-need-for-a-job stage just yet! In all likelihood I think we'll be staying put for at least a few more years. As I told Elle above, though, I don't feel sheltered from Trump's insanity by being overseas.
DeleteSteve, I read that piece in the NY Times and it just makes me sad and sick that in just a few days we are in for chaos central. I am still in disbelief that he actually won the election. I have been going through something a bit similar in that I want to leave the USA, but with all my ties here, I don't think I can. Plus, I am a retired teacher, not rolling in cash. Best of luck to you as you try and figure out what's next. What's next can be an exciting thing too!
ReplyDeleteI think it can be hard to retire overseas but people do it. A lot of Americans move down to Central America, for example, where the dollar is stronger. But yeah, family ties make changes like that difficult.
DeleteAhhh orchids!
ReplyDeleteI think Trump is targeting his own allies instead of the USA's opponents because allies have an interest in not falling out with the USA. They do have something to lose and in the end it's easy for Trump, nothing really to fear and plenty of scope for messing around with those he thinks he can subjugate most easily. He's not attacking Putin or China, much too big.
Yeah, there's no question that it's easier for him to strong-arm Denmark than China, but that's also what makes it more appalling!
DeleteI certainly wouldn't come back here but would think about other places if you would prefer warmer weather. A friend and his wife have moved to Spain and love it there. You have time to check out various options and figure out which works best for you.
ReplyDeleteSpain or Portugal wouldn't be terrible.
DeleteI feel your 'stuckedness"- it is mid winter, sure to be a time of pondering . Weather limitations, the city can feel staid after a while- I crave nature when this happens , and it happens every year at this time and through February and March. Not to be dismissive, mind you- Dave's illness, Olga's compromised age, your job, the city in winter doll drums, The only remedy is changing this up a bit- camping, Staying in Brixton for two weeks (haha) or going to France where they understand dogs better than just about anyone. OR, ride it out and know that you are doing great where you are- lucky really! If you do go to Florida let me know, we could meet up at Mary's!!
ReplyDeleteI think if it weren't for Olga, and Dave were feeling better, we'd be traveling more and hopefully that would scratch the itch.
DeleteI did not want to live in interesting times! I liked the calm boring times when things were not terrible. Personally, I can't recommend returning to the US. Net neutrality is biting the dust, mainstream media are no longer interesting in reporting the truth. It feels like the sands are shifting under foot.
ReplyDeleteThose changes permeate the globe, though. We are not insulated from any of it. I agree -- the boring times were better. Give me the '90s any day!
DeleteWell, I wouldn't even think of coming back to the USA permanently. I envy you and Mitchell and others who have built lives away from this madness.
ReplyDeleteThere are pluses and minuses to being expats, but I do envy Mitchell his mobility. Dave and I are still tied to jobs, so we're not in quite the same position. (Yet!)
DeleteLike most everyone else, I would not come back to the US. Not now. Certainly not in the next four years. I understand the restlessness though. Maybe it is time for you and Dave to sit down together and figure out what comes next.
ReplyDeleteWe do need to think more about that and talk to our investment advisors about our plans.
DeleteHonestly, I don't think Trump is wrong that developing closer ties with Greenland, even becoming a territory of the U.S. would be in our best interest. It is close to Russia and has a wealth of resources. This is exactly why countries like China are dumping lots of money there. But I think comparing the situation to Russia/Ukraine or the China/Taiwan situations is not comparing apples to apples. Russia is taking Ukraine by brute force and has killed tens of thousand of people already. Also both Ukraine and Taiwan are resisting efforts. Greenland is stepping towards independence already and has already expressed interest in developing closer mineral and military ties to the U.S. I don't think using brute military force to compel the closer ties like Russia is doing will ever be in the cards for the U.S.... or even necessary.
ReplyDeleteI think the threatening is all being done mostly by the media, including Friedman, by latching onto Trumps inelegant speaking about "buying" Greenland and turning it into war mongering.
The thought of moving and reinventing myself in a new location has always appealed to me but with a family that has grown roots, it isn't in my cards anytime soon. But you and Dave probably have a lot shallow roots and thus could relocate much easier.
But Ed, how on earth would we make it a territory of the US without forcible occupation? If Trump wanted to simply make alliances with Greenland or Denmark, he'd be saying that. He wants to OWN it. Dismissing his stated goals as "inelegant speaking" seems overly forgiving.
DeleteOur roots are semi-shallow, in that we're not citizens and if we left our jobs we'd be entirely mobile. But moving is still a major hurdle -- as we found when we came here in the first place!
Ah, that "need a change" feeling. I get it. But I also get that it's the post holiday weirdness, the "new start of the year, do we need a new start of life" thing, compounded with Dave's illness, your tests, changes at work. . . Yup. Makes sense. But there is zero way I would consider moving back to the states for another few years, at the least. We are in for one hell of a ride and it's not going to be pretty. I'd get out of here too if Canada would take us (they will for six months only) and with munchkins growing up I'd hate to have too far away. I'd like to think that if we gave them enough rope they'd hang themselves, but they'd probably do macrame instead and tie the world in knots. I do like the visual of seeing Bannon and Elon in the ring together. Trump would probably do it on pay per view and make millions, mostly from his non-supporters! I'd be watching and I hate stuff like that!
ReplyDeleteYes, I do think post-holiday weirdness and our current life situation factor into all these feelings. Sadly, I think Canada may be in for one hell of a ride, too.
DeleteIt sounds like you and Dave are re-evaluating your options. Now is a good time for this. You are both young and can make some changes. You'll put together a great future plan. Exciting times are ahead.
ReplyDeleteYour orchids are beautiful. I've not been hugely successful growing orchids. That said, during the winter months, I buy an orchid and enjoy seeing it bloom for a few months.
The voice of optimism! I love it! :)
DeleteThe thing with orchids is patience. When they finish flowering it often takes months or even years before they can muster the strength to bloom again.
Just think how much blogging fodder you'll be losing if you move away from the Russians and Mrs. Kravitz! Maybe y'all should take a trip to visit Mitchell and SG in their new location and pick their brains about relocating.
ReplyDeleteNot to mention photos from your garden!
DeleteYeah, it's true, but that's also part of the appeal, to be honest. I'd have all new material!
DeleteI think it is important that you discuss your future and have a rough plan. I have seen too many couples with no plan and then caught out when one dies or has a long term illness.
ReplyDeleteIn some ways, we have plans. I think we can sustain ourselves financially. But where we want to do that and how are up in the air. You're right -- more conversations will ensue.
DeleteSometimes a change has to happen to generate a renewal of sorts. I taught in the same school for 27 years. Every time I felt bored I would be given a different assignment. That certainly kept me going.
ReplyDeleteIt's great that they accommodated you and tried to help keep your job interesting!
DeleteYour orchids are beautiful. As for your futures, one can only hope that you make the right decisions. As you age, healthcare becomes more and more important so that's the big issue you must deal with. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteYeah, health care is a major concern for us, for sure. Maybe THE major concern.
DeleteI'll leave the decisions to you and Dave, but I wouldn't go anywhere near the USA.
ReplyDeleteWell, we can still visit. I know people there. :)
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