Sunday, July 27, 2025

Couch Drama


I spotted this Jersey Tiger moth the other day, perched on one of our bedroom windows. They're hard to see in foliage but occasionally they sit out in the open, and if disturbed they fly away in a colorful flutter. (Their underwings are bright orange.) Right after I took this picture, this one flew up into our mock orange and it took me a while to find it again.


Apparently these moths used to be scarce in London but are more common now. I see them pretty much every summer.

I wound up staying home yesterday and getting involved in some household projects. I upended the bed in our bedroom and cleaned beneath it, which is a bigger project than you'd think. It requires lifting both the mattress and bed frame and leaning them agains the wall, running the vacuum through the wilderness of accumulated dust, cobwebs and dog fur under the bed, and then repositioning all our shoes (which Dave in particular stores under the bed). I always feel better after it's been done.

I finally put away Olga's leash, collar and toys. But I haven't thrown anything out. Yesterday I came across that silly Christmas sweater we bought her in Whitstable last year. I started to put it in the trash, because we'd pretty much demolished it cutting bigger holes for her front legs, and we never intended it to last beyond the season. But it smelled so much like her that instead I put it in a baggie and put it up in the "dog cabinet" where I've kept all the rest of her stuff. I'll get rid of it eventually.

Little by little.

I only cried once, when Dave advanced the idea of shopping for a new couch. We do desperately need a new couch. We purchased the one we have from the previous renters of this flat, another teacher from our school and her husband, who had recently bought it new. I've never loved the style and it's now 12 years old, with a hole in one of the cushions and various signs of wear and tear. But of course it's where Olga spent all her days. Pretty much any time I looked in on her via our home security camera, there she was, sound asleep on the couch. "I don't think I'm ready to get rid of it," I told Dave, blubbering like an idiot.

I really am, though. We're going to couch shop very soon.


We went to Waitrose and Dave talked me into getting three new dahlias -- including the two varieties in the lower right corner of this picture. The feathery salmon-colored blossom is called "Iron in the Fire" and the pink one is called "Poodle Skirt." The third one, a deep purple called "Dalaya Dark Aruna," isn't blooming at the moment -- but as you can see, most of our other dahlias have finally burst into life. I can't complain anymore about having too many of them -- I've done it to myself. (We have 11, which isn't a problem until it becomes time to put them in the shed over the winter or repot them for spring.)

I mowed the lawn in the afternoon and beat back more of the wilderness. I reclaimed the grassy area around the teasels after "No-Mow May" and I think the teasels themselves will come down within the next few weeks, so as to limit their re-seeding. I'm looking forward to opening up the garden once again and being able to more freely move around.


We're still watching "Bewitched" every evening -- a silly show but a healthy dose of comforting nostalgia for both of us.

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  1. It's a very attractive moth.
    You'll probably be finding fur for five more years, if not more. I used to find dog hair here from our old dog, and he never lived here. Dirty housewives.

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    1. Ha -- I love that you "moved" dog hair from a previous home! I'm sure we have pre-Olga pet hair in our flat too.

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  2. Glimpses of your garden are enviable! lush and green and a lovely window view. I can relate to your slow letting go thing with your pet, even though I have had a much loved/weird little rescue cat for 5 years, I still love and miss the previous one. Your moth is beautiful, I have never seen that variety.

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    1. I suppose no matter what new pets we may bring into our household, our hearts never entirely let go of the old ones!

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  3. I like that program for comfort. I still find hints of Lukas.

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    1. I'm sure cat hair is every bit as pervasive as dog hair! (If not more.)

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  4. Seven years after the cat passed, ‘I found the cat!’ in various places of the apartment. They truly never leave us.

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    1. LOL -- they really don't. Which is kind of sweet, actually.

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  5. Your description of the under-bed miasma set my allergy muscles twitching. I would be a sneezing, wheezing hot mess 😆

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    1. Yeah, I try to clean under there at least twice a year and it's always shocking.

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  6. I've said before what an impressive photographer you are. Looking at all the pics of your garden today and over the years I have to say that you are an impressive gardener too.
    Wendy (Wales)

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    1. Thank you and thank you! We just plant things that aren't too demanding. :)

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  7. I would love to watch Bewitched again, but it’s not the kind of thing SG likes. I don’t think he’s ever even seen it. We used to be grateful when our long-haired cat, Dobie, went under the beg. The perfect dust mop. But then we’d have to clean him. Your gorgeous dahlia display is worth every bit of work -- that YOU have to do. The views of your backyard always thrill me. No one would know you live in the middle of the city.

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    1. We love our little urban oasis! I wouldn't necessarily recommend "Bewitched" -- it's stupid and very sexist. But it's television comfort food, and Elizabeth Montgomery and Agnes Moorhead make it watchable.

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  8. Your garden always looks so green and lush, you must have to spend a lot of time watering the pots.

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    1. We do water the pots every few days, especially in hot weather. Dahlias make it clear when they're not happy! (They wilt readily.)

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  9. I have never seen a Jersey moth. The garden looks lovely beautiful colours from the dahlias. Regards Sue H

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    1. Thanks! The Jersey Tiger is not everywhere in the UK -- only in the southeast, I believe.

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  10. As well as chasing squirrels, scaring cats and losing her kongs, one of Olga's other great talents was obviously sleeping. Extensive research (I googled it) tells me that a dog of her breed and size sleeps for about fourteen hours a day... but of course you already knew that.

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    1. I would have said more! I think I read somewhere that once a dog's needs have been met (food, etc) it will sleep pretty much all the time. (Without additional stimulation to go for a walk or otherwise be active.) Probably depends a lot on the age of the dog.

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  11. Thank you for sharing these heartfelt glimpses, from the flicker of a Jersey Tiger moth to the enduring love held in a well-worn Christmas sweater

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  12. That's a spectacular moth, new one to me. I hope your landlords and neighbors appreciate your gardening.

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    1. I hope so too! No one's ever said anything critical but I'm sure the Russians thought we let everything go way too much.

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  13. I still have to this day a small collection of Murphy's toys. I don't think I can ever get rid of them. The good thing now is that when I look at his giant stuffed teddy bear, I smile. The tears have passed. Yours will eventually too.

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    1. That's good to know. My brother still has many of his dog's beloved possessions. I'm sure I'll keep those Kongs forever, or at least until we get another dog who can play with them.

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  14. I can remember exactly the last time I cleaned under our bed. It was the very day I set up our new bed. Previous to that, I cleaned it before we set up the previous bed when we moved into the house!

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    1. I suppose the need to clean depends on what kind of bed you have. If you have one that sits low to (or directly on) the floor, you might be able to get away with that. But ours is raised up on legs so there's quite a bit of space under there.

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  15. Everyone processes grief differently and when you're ready for the change you'll do it.
    I, too, can get roped into a Bewitched marathon....

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    1. "Bewitched" is good, campy fun, even though it's also somewhat appalling.

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  16. That's great camo for a moth. And really lovely when out in the open. Yes, take your time with grief. (I still have a box of Gypsy things and one of Stimpy things with photos, a couple of toys, the ashes, collars and such.) You'll know when it is time to tuck them away or say goodbye. Don't rush if you're not ready. Your garden is rocking it. The new dahlias are fabulous. I can envision you two dining on your new table in this Eden-like environment!

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    1. Yes, the camo helps the moth blend right into the underbrush! We have used the table several times and are really enjoying it.

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  17. PS -- I did Google Burra. Very interesting work -- really tells a story in his paintings. Thanks for the motivation!

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  18. You are recalculating a life without an Olga. That takes some doing. Yes. The dog hair can go, the Christmas sweater can stay. A new couch can be shopped for, the old one can go. But only when you're ready.
    The new dahlias are lovely. I wish we could grow them here with any success.

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    1. Recalculating is a good way to put it. I think this transition will be a matter of slowly adapting. (As I suppose most transitions are.)

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  19. I used to love Bewitched. It's good to watch old series - they seem so innocent now.

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    1. They really do. There's nothing very challenging about them at all. (Well, except the somewhat dated humor and plotlines!)

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  20. Little by little. My yard of native perennials is work enough without having to winterize and repot 11 plants though I do have 9 plumerias that have to be brought in for the winter so I guess I'm just as bad.

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    1. Yeah, and some of those plumerias are huge! At least the dahlias can be easily moved. They are a pain, though, I admit it.

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  21. What A Garden Of Happiness There Brother Man

    OxoxoxO

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  22. Your dahlias are outstanding; the blooms are beautiful, and they make a fantastic display.
    Keeping dog supplies is ok. Believe it or not, I have collars, leashes and bowls (in all sizes, puppy to adult) from 4 previous dogs. Sometimes when Ceasar eats from a pink bowl, I remember buying that bowl for Tessie. It is all a bit crazy but also brings good memories too. Be assured, your good memories will carry you too...all in time!
    I recently replaced a couch with a leather sectional. My first question was, can a dog sit on the couch without his nails damaging the leather. The answer was yes. Circle Furniture has some attractive leather couches.

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    1. Yes, when it comes to buying furniture, we pet owners must consider all possibilities!

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  23. Oh I see how it is. You & Dave are like Mike and me - we feed each others' addictions. As all good marriages should. Ha! But at least your addiction is beautiful.

    We could really use a new couch. Ours is a futon that we purchased from Sears in about 1992. We have replaced the cushion a few times. It's not at all comfortable to sit on but we rarely have company - & it's the perfect sick bed. So comforting to stretch out on when you feel miserable. We'll probably keep it forever.

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    1. Dave definitely feeds my addictions. In fact sometimes I tease him for not helping me set more limits! I think if you use and appreciate your futon, why change it?!

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  24. I should be watching those old shows instead of the hard boiled detective ones. I love dahlias but didn't realize they took that much work! I understand about the couch and your mixed feelings. A couple years after my husband died my older daughter suggested that I re-do my bedroom suite to make it mine and not my husband's and mine. At first I reacted poorly then thought about the idea and went ahead with it. I'm glad I did.

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    1. I think it depends on the climate. Dahlias are not hardy so if the ground freezes they need protection. I usually put them in the shed for the winter because in pots the roots are not well insulated. The one time I left one out over the winter as an experiment, it died!

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  25. Your dahlia's are gorgeous! They don't seem to grow well here, so I have to vicariously enjoy yours and those of a friend in Wales. I wish you were on Instagram. I visited a friend last week and made a reel of all the beautiful flowers in her garden. You would have loved it! (I have such a brown thumb)

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    1. I am on Instagram but I never use it. I don't think I've posted anything in years. In fact I should probably delete that account.

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  26. It's a time in your life when many changes are made. Go for it. Make those changes. Buy the new couch and through out some old stuff. .

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    1. You're right -- this is a transitional period!

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  27. Wow, the garden looks so beautiful with all those blooms and dahlias are such pretty flowers. I have you way beat on the age of the sofa. I bought my sofa at Marshall Field's in Chicago when I was working there so it's about 26 or 27 years old. Thinking about that now, I can't quite believe it's that old. There are no tears and it still looks great. The only thing looking worn are the two small "throw" pillows. Their stuffing is a bit flattened these days. That couch has held up very well.

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    1. I think I remember you telling me about this sofa before! You obviously take care of your furniture. (And it was probably better quality than ours to begin with. I'm sure ours didn't come from a department store.)

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  28. In trying to deal with my losses, I find a conundrum - I hate to get rid of anything that reminds me of my husband and cats, yet as long as I keep those things, they bring sadness precisely because they are reminders. It does get easier to let them go with the passing of time, but at some point one still has to do that last hard thing. And that hard thing can be not just discarding a couch but also cleaning under the bed where all the fur migrated. So you are already doing what you know you're able to do, if that makes sense.

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    1. Exactly -- that's the conundrum. For now I'm settling for keeping them, but putting them out of sight. We'll see how that changes over time.

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  29. Your dahlias would win a prize at my flower show on sat

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    1. Well, I wouldn't want to steal a prize from some deserving Trelawnyd resident!

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  30. Keep her harness and lead, that's what we did, everything else went to a dog charity, but its hard, I have her blanket for me in the car, some times the AC is too cold!

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    1. So far we're keeping everything except her food and treats (the obviously perishable stuff). Some items will probably go by the wayside as time passes, but I can't imagine ever getting rid of her collar, leash, toys or tags.

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  31. Bewitched is nostalgic for me too.

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    1. Every evening, I watched it in re-runs in the mid '70s!

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  32. I ran into teasels at one of the botanical gardens in Vancouver, and thought of you. I don't think I realized how tall they were and was shocked. They are pretty though.
    When one of my dogs has died, I can hear their footsteps on the floor, long after they are gone. Sending hugs.

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    1. Some teasels are REALLY tall. I think the ones we have are sold as "giant" teasels. The wild type ones are not quite as big.

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  33. The dog hair under the bed would have set me blubbering. That is one impressive array of dahlias, and how tidy up on their anti-slug stands. Chris from Boise

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    1. Just between you and me, I saved a pinch of it. What if we someday want to clone Olga? :)

      (I'm kidding. I think.)

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    2. Just between you and me, I saved a pinch of our dear departed Obi's hair too. Sssshhhh - don't tell. Chris from Boise

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  34. Your Dahlias are beautiful. I have cat hair everywhere, every single thing I own has cat hair on it. Recently I had to move the fridge for some reason and found Angel's favourite toy, a balled up piece of velco with a feather in it. I rolled it for Lola and she lost interest very quickly.

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    1. Cats all have their own personalities, don't they? But every cat seems to have stunning quantities of surplus hair!

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