Tuesday, July 15, 2025

More Patio Cleanup Amid Slow Inevitability


I took this photo on Hampstead Heath the other day. I believe those are red soldier beetles -- so named because British soldiers, aka "redcoats," used to wear that color.

Dave got launched on his journey to Boston yesterday morning. He was conflicted about going, partly because of Olga's health, but he'll be back on Saturday so it's not a long trip. Meanwhile, I am loving having the house to myself. The first thing I did was clean our end tables, so Dave's pile of debris has been temporarily tamed!

Meanwhile I waited for British Gas to come and do our annual gas inspection. The guy was supposed to show up between 8 a.m. and 12 p.m. He finally rolled up at 12:30, pushing the window a bit, but fortunately I was still home -- I had to get the dog to the vet at 2 p.m.

Getting there was a challenge in itself, even though the vet's office is literally around the corner. Olga has no stamina these days. I had to carry her halfway there and halfway back. The vet listened to her heart and said once again that it sounds fine -- she's convinced Olga doesn't have heart failure. Although Olga looks a little rounder to me, the vet said she isn't accumulating fluid. She did witness Olga's coughing, which she prompted by massaging her throat, and prescribed an anti-inflammatory to treat that. She's going to do an ultrasound Thursday, which doesn't require anesthesia and shouldn't stress Olga out, and perhaps that will reveal what's going on.

I also got some information about having a vet come to our home to provide euthanasia. If we have to go that route -- more "when" than "if" -- I'd like Olga to pass on her bed in the garden, where she spent so many sunny hours.

Of course this is a somber situation, but I am surprisingly calm about it. It's a bit like witnessing my mother's final years, albeit on a smaller scale. By the time my mother died, so much of her personality had already vanished in the fog of dementia that her physical death was easier for me to process. Likewise, much of Olga's energy and vitality have already departed. She seems to be fading by the day, and I know it's not something I can stop or prevent. I do, however, need to understand it, for some reason. I need to know what's going on medically.


I continued my cleanup of the patio by dumping this large, underused pot and replanting our tomato and a toadflax in it. The tomato, of course, is an annual so at the end of summer we'll pull it out and then the toadflax will be there for next year. That tomato was in a small pot and needed more room, so this will make it happy.

I also reorganized the patio to give a little more room to our cafe table, and trimmed and weeded some other stuff here and there.


Here's our white hydrangea, growing in a pot in the garden. I found this plant back in 2022 and it was in sad shape, but it has bounced back beautifully.

In the evenings I'm going to watch movies Dave doesn't want to see. Last night was a repeat viewing of "Condominium," a very '70s tale about coastal construction and hurricanes in Florida. It was a popular TV movie but I don't think it was ever remastered for video distribution or streaming. The version I have -- which I bought as a bootleg DVD about 20 years ago -- is a fuzzy transfer from an old videotape of an Australian TV broadcast. The same version is now on YouTube, minus a chunk of the opening credits, which unfortunately deprives YouTubers of most of the groovy disco theme music. (Part 2 has the credits mostly intact.)

26 comments:

  1. "Dave's pile of debris" is probably his carefully cluttered personal aid station. Why do tidy, fastidious people always imagine that they should automatically have the upper hand as if tidiness was somehow better than clutter?

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    1. Ha! Yeah, I gotta agree with JayCee on that one! At some point the clutter impedes actual cleaning, which has to be done.

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    2. You want tidy? HA. Look no further than my father's desk. You wouldn't believe he was [still] alive. Even his HUGE waste paper basked gets emptied as soon as he throws something in it. I shan't comment on it nor convey my feelings here. It's too close up and personal.

      Looking at my desks [I have more than one] it would, most likely, make you go tut tut, Steve. Except [for me] it's home. Sure, I tidy the papers and books strewn on them every so often to wipe down any debris. Then I'll mourn for the comfort my surroundings give me. Doesn't take more than a day and I am back to "normal" and happy. At [my] home.

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  2. Nothing beats giving your plants room to thrive and settling in with a delightfully obscure '70s TV gem, even if it’s a little fuzzy around the edges

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    1. I've seen it so many times I can look past the fuzz. LOL

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  3. Rather than a table at Dave's end, get a small set of drawers, I did it with hubby, he moaned for a while, but it does look tidy and to my liking and he still has all (and a bit more) of his stuff.

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    1. Yeah, that's an idea, but I like this table because it's glass and thus very "light" visually. (If not for all the stuff sitting on it!)

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    2. Put all his stuff in a shallow basket then you only have to lift that to clean under it.

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    3. That's a practical solution. Some sort of tray or the like.

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  4. Olga may no longer be bouncing around after squirrels..but she is a grand old lady

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  5. I had a burst of cleaning energy myself this morning, it didn't last long but I got several surfaces cleared of dust. I think it a very lovely idea to have Olga's last moments on her own bed in her own garden. I was kind of hoping you'd think of that.

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  6. You manage to convey a lot of feeling without going all saccharine and tearful. Not that there is anything wrong with crying. Bladder of the soul. Tears.

    One of my favourite reminders: "In the midst of life we are in death."

    The reference to your mother moved me. I hope I'll be felled with a clean axe so my son won't have to witness the slow fading into the fog till his mother is nothing more than a shell. Given my genes it's unlikely. Still, there is always a blood clot in the making [think stroke that doesn't strike you down immediately]. Do read, if you haven't already: "The Diving-Bell & the Butterfly" by Jean-Dominique Bauby.

    Greetings to Olga, she'll sparkle in dog heaven,
    U

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  7. I had never heard of home euthanasia until recently. It is the only way I would handle all my dogs leaving. The worst time of my life, and theirs, should not be spent being dragged to a vet's office and all its coldness, no matter how kind they are.

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  8. Again, my heart is with you. Our nephew and niece, cat saviors of South Dakota, have a vet who comes to the house to euthanize their cats. It sounds so much more personal and calm. I hope we can find someone here when the time comes. I suppose we should start researching that now.

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  9. I think that at home euthanasia is really the kindest thing you can do for an old pet. They are in a safe place, with the people they love best. My best to you all during these final days. (weeks? Months?)

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  10. The vet came to the house to euthanize our old dog because I couldn't lift her into the car, nor leave my disabled spouse alone. It was a peaceful and calm end for her, and enabled partner to be there. It's the best way if you can manage it.

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  11. Losing a pet is the hardest thing because we sort of control the situation but doing what's best for the pet, the family member, is what matters.
    Someone aid Olga was a Grand Lady and she always will be.

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  12. My vet once told me "They tell you when it's time." I have no doubt Olga will tell you, too. I understand your wanting to know the specifics -- "Old age" seems woefully inadequate. I'm lucky to have a home vet and because of that, Gypsy's farewell was as good as it could be under the circumstances. I'm glad she's getting the ultrasound and hope that Dave's trip is over soon - Saturday isn't that far away.

    How about a small(?) basket next to Dave's chair to handle most of the stuff not currently in use? Of course, then you have to use the basket....

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  13. Those of your readers who have ever loved a pet can relate to what you say about how you feel, and wanting to understand what's going on, and I am fully with Bob's comment above.
    I remember when my little old cat died (she had heart insuffieciency and fluid accumulation, needing daily medication for the last year or so of her life), I knew this was her last day when I saw her in the morning. It was exactly 3:03 in the afternoon when she finally took her last, laboured breath, with me stroking her and talking to her all the time. I cried buckets but at the same time was able to be interested in the science part of it all, feeling a strange but welcome detachment as I was counting the seconds between one breath and the next.
    I didn't know that vets come to your home for euthanasia. When my previous cat suffered bladder cancer, it was done at the vet's surgery, with me present and stroking her the entire time, too.

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  14. Sweet Olga. In my opinion, as long as she still likes the garden, eats, pees and poops as normal - that's a good sign. Knowing what is causing her health to
    decline is good to know because knowing is all important.
    Hopefully the Vet can provide insight.

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  15. The one best place to bury a good dog is in the heart of her master

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  16. Having the house to myself is a very rare event and it's only for about three days at a time when it happens. I would love to have a whole week. I'm thinking about trying a hydrangea again. Maybe it will do better if I keep it in a pot. Olga's decline seems so sudden. I'd want to know what was behind it too. Will you bury her there in the garden?

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  17. Home Visits From The Vet Is Definitely The Way To Handle This Situation - Queen Olga Girl Will Let You Know When As Dogs Are The Best Went It Is That Particular Time - Keep Posting The Photos There Brother Man

    Sending Vibes ,
    Cheers

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  18. I saw this video that reminds me of your garden. It's about an Irish gardener - here's a link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ddmm77giEBE

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  19. Your thoughts of having the vet come to the house when the time comes is exactly what I'd want to do. It sounds like you are prepared and in the right frame of mind. It will still be hard but you are prepared.
    Those are interesting bugs in that first photo. The kind of remind me of boxelder bugs I remember seeing as a kid.

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