Monday, November 9, 2026

The Bromiges' Neighbors


This is one of the charity shops on our high street. Somehow their front door got broken, and for a while there's been a plain piece of plywood covering up the gap. But I noticed yesterday that someone's given the wood a cheerful paint job. ("Save Teenhood is a campaign being run by the charity to improve the experiences of teenagers in Britain, said to be the "unhappiest in Europe.")


Bailey and I found more freshly fallen leaves on our morning walk...


...and in the afternoon we went to the cemetery, where she drank from a puddle of rainwater in the base of a headstone (not sure where the stone itself went), rolled wildly in the grass and found the remains of a skinned football that she brutalized as if it were prey. It was entertaining to watch. Just the other day, I was telling Dave that Bailey didn't seem as excited about footballs as Olga used to be -- maybe she heard me and wanted to prove me wrong.

(Don't worry -- she didn't ingest any of the stringy bits, and I took it away from her after making the video.)


Here's one of the headstones in the cemetery, for William G. (died 1939) and Ada H. Fraser (1963). It's a modest grave marker, interesting only because it's now in the middle of a footpath. In fact it's very close to the grave of the Bromiges, which I've blogged before.

I can't quite remember if this path existed before Covid, but it certainly became more worn during the pandemic. The cemetery got a lot of use during that period, and around that time some paths were cleared around the perimeter in the rear section. Those are the paths I almost always walk with the dog, through the woods, rather than the paved roads in the center. (The front half of the cemetery is not as woodsy so there we use the pavements.)


Here are some other interesting graves. This is the marker of Elizabeth and John Creemer (died 1881 and 1894, respectively). The figure on the top looks like she's giving the Black Power salute ("Power to the People!") but I think she's perhaps meant to be holding something aloft -- a lantern, lighting the way? Just a guess.


This is a relatively modern grave for someone who died in 1998, just after his 16th birthday. It caught my eye because of the guitar, recently left behind with a note: "Happy 44th birthday, me old mate. You're still truly missed. Love from all the Crayford boys."


And here's a headstone for Charles Henry Webster Millar, a tenor who performed in the early 20th Century under the stage name Webster Millar. His son was also a famous singer. Both the quote at the top of the stone and the musical lyric come from Longfellow's poem "Hiawatha," the basis for a trilogy of cantatas written by Samuel Coleridge-Taylor and perhaps performed by Millar. Apparently it was a popular work in that time period, performed regularly at Royal Albert Hall with a cast of hundreds.

You can learn a lot, traipsing around the cemetery with a demented dog.

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  1. Lots of family histories there and a shame about the teen, though he's still thought about. Bailey had fun...

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    1. Yeah, I think it's nice that his friends are visiting him, even decades later.

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  2. I love walking slowly round graveyards, reading the stones and bring respectful. It's very calming, perhaps not quite so much when you have to wrestle a popped football from your dog though. 😄

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    1. Yeah, Bailey pretty quickly eliminates the "calm" from the situation!

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  3. "Bailey Finds A Ball" could be the first in a series of amusing videos aimed at young children - followed by "Bailey Chases A Squirrel", "Bailey Plays With A Frisbee", "Bailey Visits The Old Bailey" and "Bailey Savagely Attacks The Postman".

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    1. I think attacking the postman comes just BEFORE going to the Old Bailey, in series order. :)

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  4. Cemeteries make for interesting reading.
    Bailey practising with that ball..you certainly know how any rat will end up if she gets hold!!

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  5. A great place to take a peaceful stroll.

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  6. Cemeteries are as much about the history of the living as of the dead.
    Seeing a headstone for someone so young as the 16-year old always makes me sad, but the fact that he is still actively remembered by his old mates speaks for him.

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    1. I can't help but wonder what happened. It's sad but I'm glad he's remembered even now.

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  7. I love a good cemetery. There's a sense of clam there, and some of the headstone inscriptions are amazing!

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  8. The Creemer headstone reminds me a lot of the Statue of Liberty except missing the torch. When I spend any length of time in a cemetery with a camera, I inevitably spend twice as long when I get back home looking up various people to see who they were.

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  9. P.S. I'm not sure how you city folk live without garages for your vehicles. I can't imagine starting my day by cleaning wet leaves off my car.

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    1. Yeah, I really wonder if it originally held a lamp or lantern. I'm so glad I don't have a car!

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  10. The cemetery makes a great place to walk. Some gravestone inscriptions inspire thought of a life once lived and I find them fascinating. Tiny bits about a person often tell a lot or make the imagination run.
    You'll have to buy Bailey a doggy toy football. My dogs love them because when I throw the ball it bounces randomly.

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    1. Kongs bounce randomly too, which is what Olga loved about them. Bailey hasn't warmed to Kongs as much as Olga, who was more of a chewer.

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  11. I love that door! If that pattern was turned into dishes, that's what I would have registered for when I got married. Ha!

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    1. Ha! I wonder if they've thought to market it as a china design?!

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  12. Bailey really went to town on that old football. You found more interesting graves at the old cemetery. That gift to the 16-year-old was especially touching.

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    1. As much as I've walked through this cemetery, it surprises me that I still find new things. I'd never seen that Millar grave before.

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  13. Watching the video of Bailey with the ball, the phrase "the skulls of her enemies" came to my mind. She is a vigorous and thorough destroyer of footballs.
    It's sort of lovely, being remembered after all those years, on a birthday. They must have been close friends.

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    1. Ha! When I sent Dave the video, he actually texted me and said, "Is that a ball or a skull?"

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  14. I love old cemeteries but where you are they tend to be a little older! That Millar is impressive. This spot looks more tended to than the one I visited by the church in Hampstead. St. John, maybe? Not sure without looking it up. I was going to mention the strings, having had a friend who paid a hefty vet surgery bill following a similar mass mutilation! Well done! (I did kind of figure you'd know all about that possibility!)

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    1. Parts of the Hampstead Cemetery (this one) are well-tended and parts are more wild. The church cemetery is quite woodsy, especially on the south side of the church where John Constable is buried.

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  15. Looks like the next grave has plenty of lanterns to spare for the figure. Old cemeteries are so much more interesting than the modern trend of just plaques flush with the ground so as to look like a peaceful park.

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    1. Yeah, those flat plaques are really all about the mowing!

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  16. I have always enjoyed roaming cemeteries although I’ve never done so with a depraved dog. I‘m deprived. I could look at Olga all day,. She just makes me happy.

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    1. Not depraved! Demented! She's not so bad as to be depraved, LOL!

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  17. Bailey is living her best life now. I loved watching the video. I wonder how they rate the happiness of teenagers?

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    1. That's a good question. I suspect if asked, most teenagers would say they're at least partly unhappy. It's a trying time.

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  18. You find so many stories wandering through cemeteries - some terrible, some leaving you scratching your head. Isn't unhappy the default teenage setting? Lets hope that some joy does get sparked.

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    1. Yeah, exactly -- ALL teenagers are unhappy, aren't they?!

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  19. I'm headed up to the cemetery today for one brother's birthday and Veterans Day. When I have time, I enjoy looking at the headstones. There are way too many names I recognize these days!

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    1. Fortunately that hasn't happened to me yet, but I'm sure it's only a matter of time. (Unless I go early!)

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  20. It's lovely to see Bailey at play. I wonder how it's determined that Britain's teens are the unhappiest in Europe when all teens are unhappy.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Yeah, I'd like to see how they survey for teen happiness.

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  21. That is so sad to read about English teenagers being so unhappy. I can't say there is any awareness of that here, aside from manosphere issues.

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    1. I think young people DO have a lot to contend with these days, thanks to the internet. The world is at their doorstep.

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  22. It was fun to watch Bailey rolling and then playing with the ball. Maybe now you could buy her one of her own. Does anyone know why British teenagers are so unhappy?

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    1. I imagine that charity could tell you, but I don't!

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  23. I wonder what happens to things like that guitar once it is ruined by the weather?

    Bailey really has settled into her new life, hasn't she? She might be demented, but she is a your demented dog.

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    1. There's a lot of ruined stuff sitting around that cemetery. Eventually someone throws it out, but I'm not sure who makes that decision. Probably when it interferes with landscaping -- not that they do much of that.

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