Monday, July 14, 2025

Old Dog Blues


This is what happens when you're sitting in the garden after lunch and wondering, "What would it look like to take a photo through the bottom of my water glass?"

As you can see, I clearly did not have enough to do yesterday. I read an entire New Yorker and part of my current book, Edmund White's exploration of Paris called "The Flâneur." But otherwise I mostly just sat with the dog, who seems to be struggling a bit. I am taking her back to the vet today after all, to get her breathing evaluated and perhaps some medicine to help her breathe easier. Even though the vet said last week that her heart is OK, I'm convinced she's slowly developing heart failure -- she's occasionally coughing and breathing heavily, seems to be retaining some fluid, and doesn't want to move around much. I remember with our other old dog, Ruby, that we got some medicine to make the heart pump more strongly and that did her a world of good, so I'm hoping for the same for Olga.

It's astonishing to me now that we walked all the way through the neighborhood housing estate less than a month ago, because now I can barely get her to walk out the front door. I'm hoping I can get her to the vet without having to carry her. She's a lot of dog to carry.

In a stunningly unfortunate example of bad timing, Dave is leaving this morning for a conference in the USA. He'll be gone all week. We had a talk yesterday about Olga and the fact that I may have to make decisions if she worsens while he's gone, though I think it's unlikely things will get that desperate that quickly. (Knock on wood!) Anyway, he told me to do whatever I have to do.

Ugh.


On a brighter note, I went into town yesterday evening to meet up with some visiting friends, Alan and Greg, who I haven't seen in years. I went to high school with Alan, and aside from our 20th reunion in 2004, I haven't seen him much since graduation in 1984. And I went to college with his husband Greg, who I definitely haven't seen since 1987 or so. Greg and I were involved in the LGBTQ+ student group on campus. It's just a fluke that these two guys I knew independently of each other wound up getting married.

And now they have a 16-year-old son, Derek, who I met for the first time. We had a great dinner full of reminiscing at a Brazilian place in Chinatown -- yes, there's a Brazilian place in Chinatown, for some reason -- and we exchanged stories and memories and probably bored poor Derek to death.

As Sandy Denny sang, "Who knows where the time goes?"

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  1. Indeed, who knows where the time goes. It just does, Steve. If you dwell on it at any one time for too long it can frighten the s..t out of you. Best to just accept it - not that there is a choice. You know those timers? Sand. Oh dear. Even when still a young child it gave me the shivers to watch the flow of that sand. Relentless. And then it's done. The egg that is.

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  2. Poor Olga....I hope that the vet can help her. What you need is one of those dog " pushchairs"

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    1. I've thought about that, but frankly I think Olga is perfectly content to stay home at this point!

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  3. Old Welsh saying..
    "Hêd Amser, meddai...na....Erys Amser...Dyn a â " "Time flies, they say...no...Time Stays..it is Man who goes"
    Things do feel as if they come around in ten or twenty year cycles. Good to catch up with friends.
    Hope you can ease Olga's breathing. You know what is happening...but hopefully it can be gently x

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    1. Yes, exactly -- I just want to keep her comfortable.

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  4. Who knows where the time goes? It's forty seven years since Sandy Denny died.
    Great picture of the glass. Only a creative genius could think of such a thing...oh and you of course!

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  5. It's enlivening to catch up with old friends - their children learn to put up with it.

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    1. Yeah, I can remember sitting through conversations like that with my own parents.

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  6. Sounds like Dexter before we had the vet come to the house to help Dexter "over the rainbow"...damn , that was sad. He had congestive heart failure - all of the symptoms of Olga's. - Shit-
    Glad you got to see old friends and son who likely was not bored at all. I am jealous, i would love to have heard those tales!

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    1. So the vet says it's NOT her heart. Which is surprising to me, but what do I know? Stay tuned for developments!

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  7. It doesn't matter what the sexuality of parents are, parents will still bore their children to death. I enjoy following https://www.facebook.com/twodadsinlondon

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    1. Ha! Yeah, it's part of being a kid to get exasperated with your parents, I suppose.

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  8. That's a great colourful street scene, and the glass view is so unique. Very imaginative!
    Sorry to hear that Olga is not doing so well. I hope you are not alone when the time comes.

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    1. Well, if I am, I can deal with it. But I would prefer for Dave to be here, for his sake.

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  9. The glass photo is a wonder. I’m glad you had nothing better to do. I wonder if you go tot a Brazilian neighborhood for Chinese food. My heart is with you and Dave, and Olga.

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    1. Yeah, this Brazil-China crossover is a mystery to me!

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  10. Hope the vet can offer some relief, and that she finds her strength again soon

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  11. That's great that you got to spend some time with some old friends. It is indeed a fluke that two guys you knew separately ended up together. I am sorry to read about Olga. I hope that she can make it to the vet okay. I cannot imagine carrying her!

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    1. She walked part of the way, which was enough. I don't think I could carry her the whole way, even though the vet is just around the corner.

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  12. Can the vet do a home visit? Or maybe a pet uber will be needed. I hope she gets some relief.

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    1. Our next-door neighbor is discarding a wheelbarrow, and I thought seriously of borrowing it! But that would be a little too "Beverly Hillbillies."

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    2. I'm currently watching the Beverly Hillbillies (black and white) and I think that's a great idea, but you have to lift her into it and that might be difficult.

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  13. I'm sending best wishes for Olga. Having been there so many times with old dogs I know how hard it is. Let's hope the vet has a good idea.
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    1. Thanks, Peter. We'll see what the vet comes up with.

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  14. How serendipitous of Alan and Greg to end up together. It makes for very efficient visiting now when you can see them both together!
    I’m glad school’s out for you and you can spend this time with Olga.

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    1. It really is pretty remarkable that they wound up together! Yes, if Olga has to decline, better that it happen at this time of year.

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  15. I hope things go well for Olga at the vet today. Ginger declined in the same way (suspected heart failure) and it seemed to come on suddenly and worsen quickly.

    I hate that sweet Olga is having a hard time, but I know she's getting lots of love and the very best care. I hope the vet can make her more comfortable and give her some more good time.

    Hugs to you both. Especially you, because this is a hard thing you're dealing with. xx

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    1. Thanks, Jennifer. I also hope we can ease whatever discomfort Olga may be feeling. (It's hard to tell!) It's amazing how quickly this has come on.

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  16. Olga gets all love and gets all love so I'm hoping all goes well at the vet.
    I'm always stunned when I meet up with old friends after a few ... many? ... years and find their kids grown and in college when they were toddlers just the other day!

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    1. Yeah, I remember Derek being born, and it doesn't seem like that long ago!

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  17. I'm glad Olga is going to the vet (and hope she can make the walk or most of it -- she is a lot to carry.) That would be tough, with Dave gone, if decisions have to be made so I'm thinking positive thoughts for helpful medications. A win-win for all. Your Chinatown photo is great. We only saw parts at night and I wondered what the lanterns would look like in a bright sky. Now I know (and lovely!) I'm glad you had a good catch-up.

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    1. She walked far enough that we could manage. Chinatown is a great spot for photography! On your next trip you should go in the daytime! :)

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  18. Hope the vet can help Olga with her breathing.
    Glad you had a nice visit with old friends.
    Safe travels to Dave and hope he is back before you know it...

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    1. I'm also hoping the vet can come up with some answers. We shall see!

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  19. Whatever happens with Olga, I know you will make the right decisions but damn- it is very unfortunate that Dave is going to be gone this week. But you know- hopefully things are not going that fast. Speaking of where the time goes...
    How great to catch up with old friends. That is pretty bizarre that two people you knew independently of each other met and married.

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    1. It's so hard to tell how quickly this situation could progress. We just have to live our lives and hope to make it work. Isn't that crazy, about Alan and Greg? Funny how things happen.

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  20. That top photo is very cool! I might have to try it myself sometime.

    Wishing you well with Olga - hopefully she can hang on until Dave returns so that you can make any hard decisions together.

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    1. Yes, exactly. I want him to be here to say his goodbyes if need be.

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  21. I hope the Vet can provide some comfort care for Olga and ease any strain.
    Your meet-up with Alan and Greg and going down memory lane sounds very enjoyable.

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    1. Yes, at this point we're not looking for cures -- just for comfort and ease.

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  22. I like your photo through the glass.
    Good luck with the trip to the vet. Hopefully they can give you something to ease Olga's woes.

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  23. You need a wagon. Not just for Olga but to cart home dirt and stuff. Sorry to hear that Olga's condition seems to be deteriorating faster than you'd hoped.

    Interesting photo through the glass and I love all those red lanterns strung across the avenue.

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    1. Yeah, some kind of wagon or cart would come in handy. I keep thinking I'm going to get one and then I never do!

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    1. Thanks, T. I know this is hard for you to watch, too! :(

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  25. worrying about Olga keeps you busy. I hope Olga still gets time with quality of life.

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    1. I do too. When she seems like she's no longer enjoying life, we'll know it's time.

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  26. I rather like that photo through the glass.

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    1. Thanks! I think I took a drink and sort of looked down the glass and thought, "Hey! That could be a photo!"

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  27. Coughing does sound like congestive heart failure. Maybe they can put her on lasix or something. I like Brazilian food and hope to enjoy some when I visit the big city in a couple of weeks. The photo through the glass is wonderful!

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    1. Well, the mystery deepens, because the vet doesn't think it's her heart. Who knows what's going on.

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  28. Like us, animals need medicine sometimes to help with age related issues. I hope the vet can find something that works for Olga. We all love her so much!

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  29. Time really does streak by doesn't it? Great photo of the lanterns, good luck with the old girl, keep her comfortable, you'll do the right thing.

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    1. It seems like only yesterday we first got Olga, and I thought, "We'll have this dog for at least ten years -- an eternity!" Now it's been 12 and a half and the time has flown by. (She was 2 or 3 when we got her.)

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  30. That is pretty cool that you have two friends from two different periods in your life who are together. How did they meet?

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    1. I think I once knew but I've forgotten! Probably at USF, where we all went to college, but I didn't know then that Greg knew Alan.

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  31. When Olga finally crosses the bridge, will you get another dog? Love that photo of the Chinatown street. I wish I had one close to me.

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    1. I don't think we'll get one immediately. We want to travel and be untethered for a while.

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  32. Poor old girl, I hope the vet can do something to help her breathe more easily. I like your photo attempt through the glass.

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    1. She mostly breathes fine, but she has moments when she coughs or seems to pant slightly. If that starts happening all the time we'll know it's time to go.

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  33. Hoping the vet was able to help. I hope you don't have to go through whatever is coming alone. Hard decisions are a little easier if they can be shared.

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    1. And I wouldn't want to deprive Dave of last moments with Olga. I think it's important for both of us to be here.

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  34. I wondered what that spinning glass wheel thing was, now I know and might try the same myself. Olga may well pass peacefully in her sleep on her own.

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